CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...
Hello Everyone, it has been awhile since I have posted anything. The reason is there was nothing new concerning our ES and his family. Our ES came here last Christmas Eve and until his dad texted him in July this message....."life is short, be good to your mother" we had only a phone call on birthdays and Mother's Day/Father'sDay. ES must still have some love in him for us because he emailed me and asked if I wanted to the kids for one night. I had given up hope of them ever coming back here again. One reason was when school was out I had asked for them to come to visit and of course, told NO. They would be going to our DIL's parent's for the week. Oh, by the way, we all live in the same area. So with that said, I told my son that I loved him and missed him and hung-up the phone. That was the end of May. I only called him back on his birthday in July......I was DONE!
The grandkids came for their 24 hour visit but they had changed. Our oldest has been lectured to about what to say and not say. It is obvious that he is different around us because of that. Yes, I know he is getting older but the closeness is just not there anymore. Our youngest is still adorable but there were signs of her mother's influence already. I was glad they got to come and I do cherish the time with them.
But, on to my opened window. There is a young woman in my neighborhood that has been diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian and stage 3 colon cancer. She has a wonderful husband that has a very long commute everyday and two wonderful children. I started taking food to her and we talked each time. I explained to her that I would help her anyway that we could. One day the phone call came from her asking for help. You won't believe what she asked...she asked if we could be a part of their lives and help with the kids. God not only gave me two kids to love but also a daughter to love. (Both of her parent's have passed away.) I knew that I missed being a grandmother but until now I didn't realize how much I had missed being a mom. My focus had always been the grandkids and what I was missing with them.
We don't know what the future is going to hold for us with our new family. MJ is halfway through her chemo and the toughest days are ahead. I pray for healing for her and I pray that God guides me and helps me be the mom and grandmother they so desperately need right now. One day I am going to ask MJ why she made that call....I just know it is a "God" thing. What do you guys think?
The grandkids came for their 24 hour visit but they had changed. Our oldest has been lectured to about what to say and not say. It is obvious that he is different around us because of that. Yes, I know he is getting older but the closeness is just not there anymore. Our youngest is still adorable but there were signs of her mother's influence already. I was glad they got to come and I do cherish the time with them.
But, on to my opened window. There is a young woman in my neighborhood that has been diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian and stage 3 colon cancer. She has a wonderful husband that has a very long commute everyday and two wonderful children. I started taking food to her and we talked each time. I explained to her that I would help her anyway that we could. One day the phone call came from her asking for help. You won't believe what she asked...she asked if we could be a part of their lives and help with the kids. God not only gave me two kids to love but also a daughter to love. (Both of her parent's have passed away.) I knew that I missed being a grandmother but until now I didn't realize how much I had missed being a mom. My focus had always been the grandkids and what I was missing with them.
We don't know what the future is going to hold for us with our new family. MJ is halfway through her chemo and the toughest days are ahead. I pray for healing for her and I pray that God guides me and helps me be the mom and grandmother they so desperately need right now. One day I am going to ask MJ why she made that call....I just know it is a "God" thing. What do you guys think?
I have a Christian friend whose drug addicted son has had little to do with her and her husband for years, and they became "subsitute" parents and mentors to many young adults in their church over the years, choosing to focus on those who desire their fellowship, not on those do do not.
I will also pray for your son, to open his heart to both of you.
Hugs to you for blessing me today...Maddie
We too had the awesome experience of "parenting" a young man these past few months as he was living with us and preparing to go to seminary. He has since moved on but we will consider him our "adopted" son forever and I believe he considers us his surrogate parents.
We filled a need in his life and definitely filled a need in ours. Praise be to God for bringing just the right people into our lives and just the right time.
I'll remember your special friend and her family in my prayers.