CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...
Have you ever prayed so much for a situation for a long time that you surrenered it to God because the situation was apperaring like it would never change? In doing that it does not mean you agree with what is happening, but God gives you the grace and mercy to go through it.
I have to say I was in such shock, feklept, amazed, confounded and surprised. When a prayer had been answered and something good came out of an extreemly upsetting situation. I was awkwardly recieving this gift because it seemed like for ever that something good had happen to me.
What I'm talking about is my son. He avoided me for 6 months because he could no longer deal with my mental illness. He hated me for it. But as I started to heal my daughter started to tell my son the changes that were happening in me.
My son called me last night and we talked for 45 minutes. He was sharing everything that had been going on in his life. He was happy to talk with me. Honestly, it blew my mind! i thought our relationship would never be restored or redeemed!
When I finally realized that the best gift I could give my adult children was the gift of me living happy and healthy without them it was then that they wanted to share their life with me. We have such a good God! My heart is filled with warm fuzzies!
I have to say I was in such shock, feklept, amazed, confounded and surprised. When a prayer had been answered and something good came out of an extreemly upsetting situation. I was awkwardly recieving this gift because it seemed like for ever that something good had happen to me.
What I'm talking about is my son. He avoided me for 6 months because he could no longer deal with my mental illness. He hated me for it. But as I started to heal my daughter started to tell my son the changes that were happening in me.
My son called me last night and we talked for 45 minutes. He was sharing everything that had been going on in his life. He was happy to talk with me. Honestly, it blew my mind! i thought our relationship would never be restored or redeemed!
When I finally realized that the best gift I could give my adult children was the gift of me living happy and healthy without them it was then that they wanted to share their life with me. We have such a good God! My heart is filled with warm fuzzies!
You are so right, when our adult children see that we can function without them in our lives, it makes them see that they are not responsible for our happiness.
The best gifI is to be living a happy and healthy life without them....I love how you expressed that!
Thanks for your positive post.
My son, is just not even close enough to actually see that I am living my life in a forward positive motion..sometimes I can get stuck in the negative, however, it is not my reality every day. If he made any effort to actually make contact..like your son did..I am sure that my estranged son would likely be quite surprised that God is keeping me healthy in spite of my sadness over missing out on enjoying his child, my grandson, who I am a complete stranger to.
It would be suh a joy to receive a call. It has been much longer than 6 months for me..but then again, God is in the miracle business..and He can help make this call happen. The waiting and the patience needed is what God is teaching me.
So glad you gave us such good news ...and it is so sweet that you titled it "Forgiven"...yes, forgiveness,
such an important factor in reconciliation. Forgiven three ways: from our God, from our estranged child, and also forgiving ourselves. Such a good God! I rejoice with you Jessica!
Thank you. I will keep you and your son in my prayers! I had so many people praying for this amazing work of God to happen! You are now in mine!
Blessings
God Bless,
Guels Mom
Thank you for posting such a wonderful uplifting words of your good news and testimony.
Hugs to you!
J