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Sitto
Sitto
Hello everyone, so glad I found this site and hope that I can get some support. I have spent the last 5 or more years praying for our daughter who has lost her way in the type of relationships she has gotten into with guys. Over the last few years she has been associating with others who were not raised as she was and who had nothing to offer her except bad influence. She moved out of our home 3xs and would move in with one of these "bad" boys. Her recent relationship has turned out to be an abusive one and a few weeks ago, she ended up spending the night in jail for assaulting him! After this ordeal, she promised the relationship was over and was determined to begin her life anew. She was going to look for a job and go back to church. However, she has since informed us that she is pregnant and has moved out and in with the abusive boyfriend. She has not contacted us in several weeks.
I know that our Lord has this all under control but I fear for her safety and that of her child.
GuelsMom
GuelsMom
Welcome Sitto!!

We're so glad you found us too! I sure hope we can be of help and support to you.

Wow about your ED! So sad too! You certainly must be distraught as to the way she is living her life right now. How old is your daughter btw? It sounds to me like she needs some serious counseling has she ever gone to counseling? It also sounds like she feels compelled to be with the father due to the pregnancy more than out of "love" - if you can call it love when you are being abused. These types of relationships are so toxic they can only get worse, not better. And even worse is that now an innocent child is going to be brought into the picture. I would do whatever I could to get her help and encourage him to get help too.
sadmad11
sadmad11
We pray for each other here, and we understand your pain. God will protect your daughter, but I am praying that God protects your heart dear sister. You are going through much sadness right now, and I have been in the same place, but I am getting better and a little bit less sad every day because God is replacing the sadness with a little bit of joy every day. Thanks for sharing your story.
Rachel100
Rachel100
Dear Sitto, thank you for sharing your story with us. We understand your pain, especially now that you have a little grandchild coming into the picture. I will pray for your daughter to leave the abusive relationship. Do you think she could be on drugs? That was/is our son's problem...drugs. People who are addicted can't think straight at all. But maybe that's not her problem. However, you and she will be in my prayers. Please keep writing to us here. We care.
Sitto
Sitto
Hi Rachel, thanks for your response to my post. I'm sure that our daughter is not on drugs, she was on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety meds before her pregnancy and seeing a thereapist. I'm certain that all of that was caused by her low self esteem and her relationship problems.
She stopped taking all her meds after she found out about her pregnancy, thank God. Prayer has been and continues to be our greatest weapon against the choices she has made and it has helped us so much. We are just leaving her to our Lord and going on with our lives.
sadmad11
sadmad11
Bundle up all that fear you have for her safety and that of her precious unborn child..and place it at the feet of Jesus, where He will replace your fear with the confidence in knowing that He will protect her right now. Fear is a powerful emotion dear Sitto..and I pray that you will have the courage to give that fear to God.
I am talking to myself here too. I have many fears, sometimes unusual ones, that appear to be over the top fears, but God is ever so gently replacing fear in my life with His peace and joy. Hope this helps you feel a bit better and know that it's o.k. to have fear at times, it's just better to leave that fear with God, because after all, He knows best how to deal with it. I like what you wrote: " We are just leaving her to our Lord.."
((hugs))
deleted_user
deleted_user
Dear Sitto~ Welcome and know we understand all to well. I think you are right to leave it in the Lords' hands. It is hard to see them do these things. Heartbreaking in fact. I will lift you and the situation in prayer. God is good and His timing is perfect. I have to keep telling myself this as well.

Hugs to you!
Sitto
Sitto
Hi Sadmad, thanks for the encouragement on my fear of my ED's present situation. I have turned it over to our Lord and are starting to get some peace about her. I know that the peace is one of the blessings that our Lord is giving me through this ordeal. Thanks again.
Sitto
Sitto
Thanks for the welcome and it feels good to be able to chat with others who understand my situation. Thanks for your concern and for your prayers. It really does help!