CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
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First I apologize for not being more active in the group.... Back to give a quick update. After almost two years of estrangement it ended when my daughter was in labor. It is a long story that many of you know. Well fast forward it has been five months now. The baby was born in March and on the first of June I got to see her again at a family reunion. I skype with my daughter every few weeks. We are certainly not close like we use to be and to be honest I don't want to think or know too much about the situation she has herself in. There is nothing I can do about it so I don't want to worry. Ignorance is bliss. I am heading up to see her again next weekend. It will be the third time I have seen my daughter now since March. I am hopeful that the abusive relationships she is in will come to an end and she will come home but it isn't likely. She is completely controlled by him. I can't say what I think or feel for fear of being cut off again. Still praying for God's will and I am sure it isn't to have her in poverty and in an abusive relationship. Please say a prayer for my daughter tonight that she invite Him back into her life so she can clearly see what situation she is in. Thanks xoxo
I would be glad to keep your daughter in my prayers. The greatest of dreams for our children is for them to experience the salvation of God. Knowing that our children have given their heart to the Lord is our greatest joy and comfort. For those who have not experienced that comfort, there is great sadness as you well know.
When your child rejects you, it creates tremendous emotional pain. When your child rejects God, well, that can be downright scary. So this prayer is for all of our sons and daughters of us estranged parents.
Father, I thank you that you are a good God and your desire is that none shall perish but all come to repentance. I come to you today on behalf of all of our unsaved children who are in rebellion against you. I pray that you would open their eyes, turn them from darkness to light and from the power of satan to You, so that they may receive forgiveness of sins (Acts 26:18). Keep your hand upon them and lead them to the foot of the cross where they would embrace your son Jesus Christ as saviour and Lord.
I pray this in the name of Jesus.
Amen.
I know God gives our children free will but I want to add my prayers for all of our EC, whether they ever had a walk with God or not, to find their way back - first to their Lord and then their families.
DS4me - I agree with Mom2Guel - so happy to hear you have some contact with your ES, albeit a feeling of walking on eggshells. I think all parents, estranged or not, walk on eggshells as their children become young adults and think they know everything. My sister, who has a wonderful relationship with her 3 adult children and even sees her daughter 3x a week, says she stays quiet and keeps her thoughts to herself.
Our ED (like many EC) have professed a relationship with God and in my daughter's case went to church all her life and even sang in worship groups. That is why complete estrangement was such a shock. She still professes to others to be living in God's will. We all know estrangement is not part of God's will but our EC lie to themselves and others (our ED does) to justify their actions. Let God be God.
God bless us all today as we get our strength from our Lord and Savior to move forward.
I think, too, that now with your ED being a mom, things may change for the better.
I know I didn't fully appreciate what my parents had gone through til I was a parent myself.
When my daughter up and left I had been tending to my father who had been released from the hospital and needed to have daily antibiotics through an infusion pump. I was not only shocked that she up and left but the timing of it while by dad was so ill was devastating. Many of you remember I had been renting a home to her and she left it with most of her furnishings and really in need of repair. The months following her departure were definitely difficult.
I heard her ask his permission for me to come up there. It is really shocking to me how he controls absolutely everything she does. He has also made her give up the few friends she had made in the remote area that she moved to. She honestly doesn't see it as control, rather concern.
I surely hope things are starting to sink in for her. There is nothing (well almost nothing) a mom wouldn't do for her children. I am numb to a lot of things having to do with her and I really do pray that at some point our relationship will return to with some sort of normalcy.
Thanks everyone for your prayers. There are many a night I include everyone that posts in this group in my prayers. AND I can almost come to this group, read posts and reply without crying!
I understand what you are sharing about your Dad. It always saddened me that our ED also walked away from her 91 year old grandmother (now 93) at the time. Her grandmother lives in the same house. No regard for the elderly, for sure.
One day, it would be an answer to prayer that you and your ED could sit in a wonderful Bible church together. I think that would be a prayer on all of our hearts for our EC.