CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...
I know i mainly talk bout the care of my GC but let me ask a question? My son is not the same cariing ,kind son we raised.He had everthing he needed growing up great in school i never bragged on him i feel God can take that away in a blink of a eye but he always knew we were so proud and we stil are and just told him so 3 days ago.He is a nurse followed in my steps and now is going to school now to further his education.Butmy DIL i believe is trying to make him treat us the way she treats her own parents.I can tell by texts from her the other night the tiny threats she made bout if i am unable to care for my GS the way his skin is let her know. Maybe someonewouldnt take that as a threat but i do.Maybe i see the glass half empty when some see it halffull.I see a different attitude inher other children towards us that has not been there before.She has had a hard life herself and never had much my son took on the family and is supporting them by hisself and we help i know we shouldnt but my son and GS needs us.But she is turning him against us i think.She is adifferent person when he is with her shewont answermy text and wont call until she wants something. how do you all think i should approach,leave alone,handle this? I am starting to feel used.
Unless your grandson is in danger, I would let your son and his wife make the rules for his care. They are his parents. It seems that you have been helping them out and that is a good thing, but possibly it is time to let your son take the responsibility for the care of his own family. If I were you I would pull back, go about your own life for a while, and separate yourself from them emotionally.
It is easy for the rest of us to give advice, when we likely are not following this same advice ourselves. :-)
Hang in there! In my experience, estrangement from children is on of the most painful things a person can go through.
I do think praying first for a while and getting God's direction is best. Remember that your gs is important to you and you do not want them to change the weekly visits.
Your son is a nurse, continuing his education. I believe that he would know what is the proper treatment of his son. Further, I suggest that you respond to your DIL that you accept your GS as he is skin condition and all. It appears that there is a battle of wills going on. What you and your DH believe and what your son and his family believe. As CanadianMother suggests, pull back. Be there when they call and help when asked and enjoy all people in your son's family, GS and Step GC. Praying for you. Blessings.
Pray for your family members and wait for them to come to you. You are a special daughter of God and he wants you to use the gifts he has given you to follow the path he has chosen for you. God is watching over your gs and will keep him safe.