God isn't disappointed, he know there is only so much we can do when others are closing doors. Just keep praying and try to give them some time, it seems like the harder we push the more they want to pull away so try to give them some space and ride out the storm. Spring is right around the corner, try to find something you can do to take your mind off of it as much as possible, the time will pass more quickly is you are doing something else. It's all easier said than done and I'm talking to myself too, but it's all the advise I know to give myself or anyone else in this situation.

I get it. I've been there. Sometimes I still get the urge to try. But God has said "Be still" He is the one working on it now and He does a perfect job, unlike me. I don't want to interrupt Him and put an obstacle in His path. I believe with all my heart He is working on them, on me, and on the entire situation. I choose to trust Him with it instead of trying to handle it myself. That didn't work. It only made it worse. So, like Jehoshaphat prayed:
"O our God, will You not judge them? For we are powerless before this great multitude who are coming against us; nor do we know what to do, but our eyes are on You."
God answered: "You need not fight in this battle; station yourselves, stand and see the salvation of the LORD on your behalf, O Judah and Jerusalem.' Do not fear or be dismayed; tomorrow go out to face them, for the LORD is with you."
So often we try to "help God out". So did Abraham and Sara. Look at the result of that. It's so much better when we take our hands off and leave it in God's loving hands. In my humble opinion anyway.

His ways are not our ways and he can reach the unreachable.I believe everyone experiencing estrangement sooner or later, will get it. It seemed more I tried, the harder it became and the more hurt I experienced. It was hard to let go, but I know I made the right choice. Barbyzhere, you summed it up. God doesn't need our help in dealing with sin of others.

You all are so wonderful, sometimes i needto hear someone and how they handled it,

Letting go of the effort does not mean we do not care. It means we care enough to know that God can more than handle our burden. We often need to step aside and pray. God bless you edr.

you are absolutely right, Lindajoan. I have been accused of giving up on mine, but not so. I will never give up! I just backed away to allow God to step forward.

we are trying to let go honest,it comes and go in waves,i recieved a paper in mail today that my son has to sign notorize and no way to contact so i called his phone and said"i am not sure if you get this message sending you a paper that needs signed and notrized and send back or drop off on youway to or from work" and texted same message no response so we mailed it with no conversation included.I am trying i know will take time.But with all of you and Gods help i will make it.Its going to be hard

We understand, are hurting with you, and praying with you. Giving this to God is not giving up, so hang on to hope and cling to the Lord and the sisters here on this site!

I agree with everyone above.....we know how you are feeling, most of us tried and tried until we finally realized we had to stop, and as others said, give the situation over to God. We often make things worse, HE never does.

In my case, I am sure God wanted me to stop with my ES, but I didn't. We feel such desperation and just want it fixed and also want the pain to end and, although "wait" is one of God's answers, it is not what we want to do. A dear sister told me, quite bluntly, that I was so consumed with my estrangement that I was not able to be used by God. I really did appreciate her frankness. It was a wake up call for me. So, in my case, I am pretty confident God did want me to stop trying and trust in Him.

You said the word " consumed " and i am exhausted, but i am trying to let God drive this car, i cant do it anymore there is nothing else we can do,except get complaints signed against us and they tote us to jail, lol no one will get us out. I am still very emotional,but i do see a differance.God knows i still love my sons,and grandchildren but for my mental,physical health i have to let God do his thing.

Amen edr! Jesus take the wheel as the song says. Blessings to you.

Brings back memories of a license plate my Father saw in a store that read, God is my Copilot . He laughed and said where is the one that says, God is my Pilot.

Thank you my friends!

Edr, I may have sounded in my earlier reply to this post as though I have arrived at some utopian place of peace. Not so. I have regular dreams (nightmares) about them, I miss them horribly (my gs's 7th birthday is the 20th) and I still get the odd urge to reach out. Then I go back in my mind to when I did try and the responses I got. My efforts seemed to only inflame his rage. Truth I spoke was spit on. Nothing worked. ONLY GOD can do something. I would love to pray somehow that moves Him to miraculously fix it NOW. But the best I can do is leave it at the foot of His cross. That's where the answer to every problem we could ever have can be found. It's all up to Him to choose the timing. Trying any other way than leaving it up to God only results in more hurt, more pain, more torment. That's my experience. I don't know what I would do without this site. Knowing I'm not alone in this helps keep me from losing my mind or my faith. God bless you edr, and God bless every parent who is suffering in the hell of estrangement.

barbzhere i know, i wish you and everyone can be at the place at peace,it will have to take time,i have dreams to sometimes,and want to reach out and we have tried,our hearts are just shattered, and you said it right"the truth i spoke was spit on" i defended my gs i am not sorry for what i said BUT sorry that i had to say it. and they didnt like it,so nothing else they could do but take our gs away, i was reading its almost like a type of elder abuse toward us,and child abuse toward our gs being isolated.I am so thankful for having this site also no judges each other,sometimes i come up with ideas cause i am so mad and i tell all my good friends here and you all make me look at differently.God Bless You To