CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...
Here's another article link (short) I found and marked yesterday based on Proverbs, and the author delineating God's Wisdom in relationships based on Proverbs. 20:20
THIS SHORT ARTICLE IS EXCELLENT FOR DISTINGUISHING THE BEANS FROM BARLEY (as the old saying goes.) I urge you to take a couple minutes to read and digest.
http://www.letgodbetrue.com/proverbs/commentaries/20_20.php
While back I threw out the one liner "Let GOD and Let GOD" that someone liked. Right now that is bedrock for me. I can't do this any more successfully than families of the Patriarchs who tried and tried ALSO.
God knows, literally, how WE as a segment of Christian society have attempted to heal things. Often to have it blow up in our faces and the animosities spreading out among family members like ripples in a pond. Social engineering, peer pressure, etc. has more sway nowadays than parental values. Oh. So. True.
I think it was either Erma Bombeck or perhaps Barbara Johnson the Christian humorist article, who once lamented: "Where does a mother go to resign?"
I'm not particularly resigning, nor divorcing children (Iegally) as about 2 decades ago children did to parents and sued for financial damages, but I AM GIVING THEM TO GO to a depth now I have just discovered is possible with the Lord. HE loves them more than we can. And them "kicking" against HIM may get their attention when I remove myself from that position.
Good luck and God Bless. I am a hard-core researcher, tend to speed reading, and considered this worth sharing.
THIS SHORT ARTICLE IS EXCELLENT FOR DISTINGUISHING THE BEANS FROM BARLEY (as the old saying goes.) I urge you to take a couple minutes to read and digest.
http://www.letgodbetrue.com/proverbs/commentaries/20_20.php
While back I threw out the one liner "Let GOD and Let GOD" that someone liked. Right now that is bedrock for me. I can't do this any more successfully than families of the Patriarchs who tried and tried ALSO.
God knows, literally, how WE as a segment of Christian society have attempted to heal things. Often to have it blow up in our faces and the animosities spreading out among family members like ripples in a pond. Social engineering, peer pressure, etc. has more sway nowadays than parental values. Oh. So. True.
I think it was either Erma Bombeck or perhaps Barbara Johnson the Christian humorist article, who once lamented: "Where does a mother go to resign?"
I'm not particularly resigning, nor divorcing children (Iegally) as about 2 decades ago children did to parents and sued for financial damages, but I AM GIVING THEM TO GO to a depth now I have just discovered is possible with the Lord. HE loves them more than we can. And them "kicking" against HIM may get their attention when I remove myself from that position.
Good luck and God Bless. I am a hard-core researcher, tend to speed reading, and considered this worth sharing.
I was riveted as I read what the elder brothers who ganged up against him dead, some things they didn't DARE do (for fear of the Lord...) and the lies they contrived to tell their father, and how hypocritically they had "their story and were sticking to it" of what had happened to Joseph (eaten by a wild beast, his coat covered with blood (from a lamb but his father believing it was his son's life forces). It struck me that in their on-going and perpetuated lies...wow...were they dishonoring their father, Jacob. And it started as fomenting with one or two (Judah and Levi I believe) and slowly slithered through the ranks until ALL the brothers were in agreement. Siblings tainting siblings against Daddy's Best Interests.
The Lord God has dominion over all, of course, and even when we do NOT act in the Lord's Perfect Will For Us..He knits things together so that when being headstrong and choosing to go against what He desires for us, even great good can come out of evil and bad beginnings. All Things Work Toward Good
For Those Who Love The Lord. EVENTUALLY!
Potipher's wife had the hots for her husband's trusted servant, she colluded to seduce him and never missed a trick to try to bring him down. More lies. And her friends even aiding and abetting her cause.
End resuilt Joseph is thrown in prison, the butler types imprisoned with him have dreams, he tells them what they dreams MEAN and that these two workers of Potipher will be reinstated one to live and do well, the other to end up slain. To both men he asked them to "remember" him to Potipher as he'd already spent ten years in prison.
The second one, slain, hastily forgot and did NOT remember Joseph to Potipher.
Now keep in mind this was at one time considered Holy Scripture, Jesus would've been familiar with these books, but they were tossed out and lost standing 400 a.d. when their were councils and group decisions about a lot of things some centuries after Christ died for us, and Apostles who'd personally kinown him went on to be with the Lord.
It hit mje - stout and rather hard - when I saw the end-detail of this lengthy passage about Joseph's life in Egypt and how he remained in prison for TWO MORE YEARS after he'd asked the 2nd prisoner released to "remember him to Potipher".
Why did he remain in prison two more years? According to this ancient scripture that was God's punishmjent to Joseph....FOR WHAT?
"Trusting in man" (not the Lord. as Joseph and the Patriarchs did so regularly but when they did slip up and tried to placve trust in mankind....they taste serious betrayal...
No doubt I have, too, for times when I've been stupid enough to think someone can speak on my behalf (i.e. siblings) and it will result in a miracle. Naw....
And in Ham dishonoring Noah....to the point the old gent awakened and professed a curse...just WHAT did Ham do? Well....first shot out of the bottle he tried to involve his SIBLINGS in the dishonor.
Wretchedly familiar territory, that. And it is making me realize that the one girl-child sibling who is most in sway to the EC but still calls me regularly., I am going to have to BE CAREFUL because I have become aware her big sister PUMPS her about us.
I'm toying with the idea of how to make it harder for her to reach me, frankly. She's starting to make some remarks herself and I think, "I know where she got that."
Such a thing as tough love. I may do it. I've gone over and above for the child encouraged to dishonor us...to the point of taken for granted Mom will ALWAYS be there when she wants/needs me.
I'm praying for the wisdom to Nail Down Some Boundaries and give her a wee taste of what it is like not to HAVE a mother (i.e. when I die) and am not there as some kind of on the shelf reserve.
WOW!!!