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Hi everyone, I have posted on here for a few weeks about my ED and yesterday I happened upon our neighbor who started a conversation about our ED. Our ED has not contacted us in over 3 months, is pregnant by her abusive boyfriend and has not even come home to get mail or any clothes.
Our neighbor's daughter is very good friends with our ED so she keeps in touch with her. After a very lengthy discussion with my neighbor, I have now come to realize that our ED got pregnant, not by choice, and having her beliefs against abortion, is having the baby. My husband was quite angry and upset over the pregnancy and had words with our ED and told her to leave and not come back home with a baby. I feel better now because I have come to the realization that the pregnancy was not planned and our ED just made a big mistake. I'm sure she is not happy living with her BF and his mother but feels like we let her down and want nothing to do with her anymore.
Now that I have come to realize what is going on, I want to send her a text and just say "We love you" but I'm so confused if it is the right thing to do. She has gotten a job since leaving home so that's a good thing. All I want is to have her back in our life again even if she wants to stay with the BF. I have been praying so hard for her and I feel that the meeting and talk with our neighbor was our Lord's way of reaching out to my heart. He has always forgiven us for anything we have done and I know that forgiving our ED for her mistake is something we must do. I just hope I can pluck up enough courage to do the right thing by forgiving her for this mistake and giving her our love and support.
Our neighbor's daughter is very good friends with our ED so she keeps in touch with her. After a very lengthy discussion with my neighbor, I have now come to realize that our ED got pregnant, not by choice, and having her beliefs against abortion, is having the baby. My husband was quite angry and upset over the pregnancy and had words with our ED and told her to leave and not come back home with a baby. I feel better now because I have come to the realization that the pregnancy was not planned and our ED just made a big mistake. I'm sure she is not happy living with her BF and his mother but feels like we let her down and want nothing to do with her anymore.
Now that I have come to realize what is going on, I want to send her a text and just say "We love you" but I'm so confused if it is the right thing to do. She has gotten a job since leaving home so that's a good thing. All I want is to have her back in our life again even if she wants to stay with the BF. I have been praying so hard for her and I feel that the meeting and talk with our neighbor was our Lord's way of reaching out to my heart. He has always forgiven us for anything we have done and I know that forgiving our ED for her mistake is something we must do. I just hope I can pluck up enough courage to do the right thing by forgiving her for this mistake and giving her our love and support.
It reminds me of an incident when my son was about 8 years old. Something happened in the neighborhood with his playmates and I was convinced by the circumstantial evidence that he was the culprit. Upstairs to his room he had to go. Meanwhile, I went outside to work in the garden. When I came back in, on the counter sat a note from my son which read, "Mom, I did not do it. You need to say you are sorry."
He was heartbroken that I had not believed him. I knew in my heart that I had to apologize to him in spite of what had appeared to be.
I think telling your ED that you will always love her no matter what, but that does not mean that you have to like her behavior at times.
It reminds me of an incident when my son was about 8 years old. Something happened in the neighborhood with his playmates and I was convinced by the circumstantial evidence that he was the culprit. Upstairs to his room he had to go. Meanwhile, I went outside to work in the garden. When I came back in, on the counter sat a note from my son which read, "Mom, I did not do it. You need to say you are sorry."
He was heartbroken that I had not believed him. I knew in my heart that I had to apologize to him in spite of what had appeared to be.
I think telling your ED that you will always love her no matter what is always warranted, but that does not mean that you have to like her behavior at times.