I've written to my ES several times apologizing for any wrong, telling him I love him, inviting ES and DIL to our home, etc. but no response.

However, you have a daughter and I believe daughters reunite with their families faster than sons, especially if the sons are married.

I would just say KEEP IT SHORT. I remember when I was young and my mother and I were not estranged but she would write me these long letters and after awhile I didn't want to read anymore, so keep it short.

The old saying "less is more" applies here I think. And pray about it.

Just don't share to much about how you feel. I used to think if I just wrote to my son about how much I loved him and wanted to be close to him and discussed life and God and motherhood and fatherhood etc. etc. etc. that my son would be intrigued by my honesty and decide he wanted to have a long conversation with me. Right.

At this point in his life, he is not thinking about anyone but himself and his girlfriend, and any emotions I have are just a burden to him. I am trying to run his life, I am too emotional, I am and offense to his freedom. Go learn to make Indian food with the neighbor, Mother. I don't want you in my life. Pretty much an exact quote.

Every once in a while I write something. Lately, I try to make it light, but I still get no response. I thought once about sending a singing telegram. Maybe a guy dressed up as a ham sandwich. My son doesn't seem to have a sense of humor either. He will eat the baked goods I leave at his door though.

I think you wanting to write daughter is a normal for a loving Mom. Unfortunately, it seems our adult children could care less what we have to say, let alone how we feel, and by writing it just gives them further control in our lives and lets them know they have us bleeding in a corner while they happily go on with their lives, not giving us a second thought. It's sort of like beating a dead horse, banging your head against the wall, trying to eat peanut brittle with no teeth. I believe only God can fix these relationships and the question being, will He? This is prophecy coming down the pike ... wars and rumors of wars, people will be lovers of money, boastful and proud, father will be against son, mother against daughter ... in that respect, sometimes it seems all the praying in the world is futile since nothing is going to stop prophecy and the Lord returning to end the mess this world is in ... I wish He would come back right now, as I type because this heartache is reaching a point of being debilitating and unbearable.

Our ED left home over a year and a half ago. We tried many things (at first) to establish communication but she has either not responded or responded in an unpleasant way. If you are feeling led by God to write to let your ED know that you love her then do so. We must only do it if we are doing it because we feel it is right, for us, and not because of expecting a response. We can not change our EC, only God can.

Estrangement is a sign of the times, for sure, but we are still commanded to "pray without ceasing".

Our ED is unmarried but is still being controlled by a bf (not the original one she left home for). We live in an evil world. We do not always understand God's plan (as Rick Warren said about his son who took his life) but we know that we can trust God who will never fail us.

I've written several short texts. I have heard she calls them guilt trips. They are not. So, I quit trying. The only guilt is her conscience. Blame is a way to deflect stress.
But I constantly toy with,the idea.of writing her.

I've not written es or dil. I have taken a gift and card by to dil (got in LOTS of trouble for that one!! It was told to us that dil's mother almost came after me! yes...for writing a card from my heart that blamed everything on me and giving her her favorite tea...). I have also texted. They've always been either not answered at all or answered with ugliness. It always hurts me. You might want to be prepared for that wound being opened. Again. And it might be right for you at this time, but not for me or some other parent. I've learned how important it is to listen intently to the Holy Spirit's leading. He'll tell you. I might be right this time for you and not the next. Again, listen to the Holy Spirit. He'll let you know :)

Thank you all for your responses. I will continue to pray and wait for some kind of confirmation from the Lord before I write to my daughter. I don't want to make things worse, and since I don't have a clear idea about what I would say yet, I will wait until I do. God bless you all.