1 Corinthians - Chapter 7 has the answers

I believe abondonedment can actually mean pysical, spiritual and emotional and everything else actually. If you have seeked help, gone to a christian counselr and things have not changed, theres really only so much you can actually do! Why would God put someone in a position to where they are VERY unhappy and the other person is just "not there"?
Even if you have faith and trust in God, being in a marriage like that is not the type of marriage that God would what.

Many people feel abandoned by God and yet the truth is they are not abandoned. This husband is still in the home. There are many things that make a wife or a husband with draw emotionally from each other.

I would not want my husband to file for a divorce because he is very unhappy and thinks God would rather he be with someone who can make him feel secure. Look to the Lord to fill all those emotionally needs you are lacking and you will be able to see love in a new light. You will be able to see that your husband may need something just as much as you, if not more.

Abandonment is not a cause for divorce. Adultery is the only cause i've read about in the bible.

My father was abandoned by his first wife, she took off. Should he still have stayed married to her when she takes off leaving 5 children to him? I think not! Why make someone stay when they dont want to? I think adultery is deeper than just sleeping with another person, it is also cheating on your husband or wife with your own needs, needing to just take off, leaving your children to live your own life.

1Cr 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such [cases]: but God hath called us to peace.

Ok this is such a hard thing to discuss for me:I was reading on here where abandoment is Not a cause for Divorce...I Think the opposite...There's all kinds of ways your spouse can aband you.Absent from the mind...yes,absent from the body yes....Please give a answer in my case...I was married to my high school sweetheart for 10 years...we had 3 children.Everything was fine,untill the last 2 years.I knew something was wrong,we would so everything together.we were very loving and passinate towards each other..Then all of a sudden he became kinda distinct...wanting to hang out with friends from work,going out on the weekends with friends....As for me I didn't really see anything wrong with that,because I beleive you need time away from each other once in awhile...I sometime would hang out with my friends....That's ok with me....But I guess I should of found out where he was hanging out,and who with...Well it got to the point where it was every weekend...so I had to ask:what's going on here...So here we go...
He told me if he tells me I would hate him forever.He was Gay,and been hanging out in gay bars and with gay friends...He meet a man he felt was his true companion in life...He told me he always new he was this way,even as a child,but he thought if he got married and had a family..the felling would go away,well it didn't..He felt he had to true to his felling,that he'd been keeping secret for all these years...We did go to the marrage councler(he said he felt my husband was just oversexed WRONG)In are marriage that was never the problem..I asked him to stop going to the bars and hang more out with me and the kids..He said he was not going to give up his new friends...So what do I do..I decided to go with him a couple of time,just so we could be together...That didn't last long...Not for me...so I told him it was either us or them...(meaning his new friends)He couln't have it both ways...si he said I'll move out for awhile and see what happends..so he did...He would come over a couple of times.see the kids and me...we would even sleep together,because he said he missed me...so finally he did move back home for about a mounth...and he said he just couln't pretend anymore...so he left for good...He filed for a divorce...And I gave him one...


So my question is:
Do you divorce your spouse or not?Do you stay with someone who is not there anymore in body and mind?
Do you get a divorce for being abandonment or not..
It says in the Bible:It is not good for man to be alone:
Does this go for a women as well?
I have recently remarried after 14 years od being divorced..
My new husband is a Minister and I know he was sent from God above.
His wife left him( or should I say kick him out of the house with his clothes on the front porch) after 17 years and two children.He had a stoke and was at his doctors when he came home and there it was...He has been a Minister for 14 years..He said he should of left along time ago,because she was very emotional abusive to him...And he did want them to go to counceling, but she refused to...So she kicked him out and filed for a divorce...

Then we meet,feel inlove and got married(the best thing to happen to me)I Thank God everyday for him comming into my life..He saved me..
And brought me back to the Lord....

Sometimes you just can't stay with the person you thought was going to be there forever...and to me marriage was forever...
You need to go with whats deep in your heart.God gave you the knowlege to know what's right and what's wrong...
I knew what my ex-husband was doing and putting our family through was wrong.

I pray for anyone who has been in a divorce or going through one..
Just remember..The Lord will not give you anything you can't handle..
It made me such a strong person.and Iam glad for that...
I was able to raise my children...and go on with my life...And the Lord Jesus Christ was walking with me all the way...
The poem:Foot Prints in The Sand Is my favorite poem...
God Bless you all..
Star..

Look here where the Lord says He gave Israel a bill of divorce. Whether it is a man or a woman, chasing after another in your mind or deed is adultery right?

Jer 3:7 And I said after she had done all these [things], Turn thou unto me. But she returned not. And her treacherous sister Judah saw [it].

Jer 3:8 And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.

My father went by the book and did get a divorce according to the bible. He was a deacon and was told that he could not be one anymore and our family was pushed out of the church .I had deacons that would not speak to us when we ran into them.
This was a long time ago but my father rased my ithe early 70s,which was unheard of. It takes a toll on all not just the 2 on you .It still has problems at holiday 36 years latter . You can only be at so many places on one day.