first, you have to realize that in ANY battle, WE are not the ones who defeat satan. God ALREADY HAS DEFEATED him. he is a defeated foe, and his only last desperate recourse is try to convince you that you are defeated, so that he can steal your energy and try to keep you separated from the One who has the true power and dominion.

It doesn't matter what the 'issue' is... for one person its sexual desire, for another its alcohol abuse, for another its laziness... its all the same thing...

so what can you do?

Realize that the battle is already won, and that you are on the winning side, with God, and then speak that into and over your situation. Utter it with the sound of your voice. Power of life and death in the tongue, remember. Watch every word that comes out of your mouth, and rebuke anything that does not align with Gods will for you. In this situation, and every other.

And then realize that sex is not a bad thing to want. Its normal to want it, and it is healthy to enjoy it (in covenant). Don't let the devil convince you that your desires are bad. God made sex enjoyable for a reason... He wants us to enjoy it WITH our intended partner. SO practice patience as God works in you and your future partner in preparing you for eachother. Realize that there is a difference between desiring sex and following through on the ACT of sex. Also, notice if/when you may have lustfully objectified another person, and confess it and receive His Mighty Grace. Allow Him to cover it with His blood. Don't take it back on your heart once you have given it up to Him. If you are prone to surrounding yourself with things that encourage lustful thoughts, change your surroundings (whether that means selecting more wholesome tv shows, media, websites, etc) and do your best to keep your appearance modest so that you do not invoke lustful responses from others, which can not only encourage you to temptation, but the others, too.

Kim, sin is human nature. It says that in the OT. I'll get you the verse if you want it. But dont worry about demonic creatures in this matter.

Good response aikijedi!

I appreciate this post and your honesty. I also appreciate the responses here lots of truth. Paul wrote he learned the secret to being content in all circumstances. it is written, whatever is true whatever is noble whatever is right whatever is pure whatever is lovely whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praisworthy think about such things and the God of peace will be with you. We are all tempted but God will always provide a way out so we can stand up under the temptations. Jesus used the word to answer satan every time satan tempted him in the desert after his fast ended. It also helps to confess these sins. Find a good mature in spirit christian woman to confess your sexual sins to. The desires you have...physical lust want and desire to be sexual prior to marriage..these are sin..the desire to remain pure till marriage..this of course is Godly. It is a battle everyone faces..and most like me make the wrong choice and pay heavy consequences for our sins.

Thank you for your post and your courage. May Gods peace always be with you. Your servant in Christ, Joseph

Good point, aikijedi. We cannot defeat Satan and we must rely on God. Pray for strength in this situation. Kimmy, know that the Lord loves you and also know that He is always by your side. He will never allow too much for you to handle.

Kimmy, as for judging you, I don't have the right to do so because I have struggled with the same thing from time to time. God won't judge you either because any sin you commit has already been paid for at the cross. God bless you and keep you strong.

Most of us struggle, some with one sin, others with another but we all have weaknesses, this one just happens to be one of the most prevalent, and marriage will not remove it because as someone else pointed out this is the flesh, that old sin nature.

James said "12 Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him. 13 Let no one say when he is tempted, âI am tempted by Godâ; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. 14 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. 15 Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death."

You know a lot of people want to rehabilitate the flesh, to clean up the pig and bring him to the dining table, but when you let the pig go, it runs right back to the mudd. No the only solution for the flesh is death, as in crucified with Christ, that the life I now live I live by faith in the Son of God.

None of us judge, we too are tempted and as James points out the desires come from within, that old sin nature. Paul wrote about this in Galatians 5 when he pointed out that the flesh wars against the spirit and the spirit against the flesh. This is why Paul wrote in Romans 8 that all of creation even we ourselves groan within ourselves waiting patiently for that final redemption! Walk circumspectly in these last days, for certainly the Lord comes quickly and we want to be ready.

I find that best way to change our sinful thoughts, desires, behaviors is to give each day to the Lord. Wake, pray before you get out of bed that the Lord be in charge of your "everything" and that you desire His will for everything in your life. Ask God to change these desires in you each morning and help you put that energy to use somewhere better.

This is just my own personal experience.

I agree with my brothers and sisters in Christ here. Being tempted is not sin. To give into the temptation is the sin. We all have weaknesses. It's funny how we always want to CLEAN OURSELVES UP BEFORE WE GET INTO HIS PRESENCE! WE NEED TO RUN INTO HIS ALTER WHEN THE PROBLEM IS A BUD. INSTEAD WE WAIT UNTIL THIS BIG OAK TREE GROWS WITH A HOLE PILE OF WEEDS NEXT TO IT(I'M SPEAKING ABOUT MYSELF HERE)!Surrender every thought and imagination to the Lord. Speak to Him! He already knows what you are going thru anyway! Lavish yourself in his grace and mercy. I know for my self when my flesh wants to raise its ugly head, I fast and pray. I dig deeper into the word of God. I renew my mind and stay in his presence. I run to his feet and repent. Only his power alone can bring you thru the fire and the flood.

Have you notice in life its the things we can't have or don't need that makes us want them more? You can tell your child they can't have something and why but as soon as you turn your back, there they go..I believe its being told you need to wait, or you can't do that that tempts us and makes us really want it...We are always going to be tempted in some way but how we handle that temptation is what leads us close in our walk with God are farther behind.
I once lagged so behind I finally quit and said this is way to hard..Thank God Jesus stopped and kept calling me..I learned I couldn't do it on my on no matter how much I tried, no matter how much I said I wouldn't let it happen again..I had to let go of All my desires and let God handle them..I've had to let go of everything in my life and put him in control..Yes it was hard at first..but it does get easier..
If you must think about your wedding night then think what a blessing you will bestowed upon that night by waiting.How you did God will by waiting and how he will bless you for it...like so many others I didn't wait and I wish I had.. what more of a gift besides marriage can you give to the man you love than waiting for him to be first between the union God created.
Tammy

Kimmy you also have to realize that everything out there now is geared toward sex. The hamburger commercials are down right disgusting. I don't know about where you live, but here in Alabama, where people come to go to the beaches, it is everywhere, billboards, stores. The daisy dukes that the girls wear now made the real daisy duke shorts look like long shorts. The devil knows how to market lust. He does it on purpose. Just plead the Blood of Jesus over your mind every day.