My homosexual cousins partner asked him to marry him,yesterday . I love JP , my cousin and we were close as children but ,personally , I am torn . I can't attend but it will insult him and my aunt but Jesus is more important .I have no siblings and he was like my younger brother
I don't know what to do
Tears are healing , right ?

I desperately needed to hear these verses, they brought me comfort , thanks

Please pray that I become stronger in the love of Jesus Christ

Just remember Jesus loves your cousin and his partner with all his heart.

I will pray for you and have been dear one

It is so difficult. Many of us have people close to us who are homosexual. One of my oldest and dearest friends is gay. I see him often, his partner too. If they decide to marry, I will be torn. Do I show support to a dear friend in something I know is not in line with God's law? Do I deeply hurt a friend of over forty years because he is officially sinning by getting married? Was it a sin socializing with he and his partner for the past 25 years?! Is it an even greater sin to turn your back on a friend, a fellow sinner, over this?

I'm tying myself in knots with these questions that are hypothetical - for now anyway. I can imagine how you must feel Brighte. You remain in my prayers.

I too can understand what you are going through Brighte. My best friend in highschool came out a few years ago. He kept his secret the whole time we were in school and never told anyone, his parents included, that he was gay. I must say that I haven't talked to him since he came out and I really need God to help me work that out if it is His will. I really don't think I could attend a gay marriage ceremony simply because of my faith. I couldn't sit there and pretend to be happy for those people knowing the sin they are committing. It would simply be hypocrisy to do so. Jesus tells us not to friends to the world. If we are friends with the world then we are enemies to God. Codoning homosexual behavior and not standing firm on one's faith is not something we should mess with. Does that mean that you don't still love cousin? Of course not, but you have to keep your Christian values. Here are some words from 2 John which may help light the way in this circustance and in ANY circumstance where we as Christians may question our interactions with sinful worldy people be they friends or family....

2 John 1:9-11
9 Whosoever transgresseth, and abideth not in the doctrine of Christ, hath not God. He that abideth in the doctrine of Christ, he hath both the Father and the Son.
10 If there come any unto you, and bring not this doctrine, receive him not into your house, neither bid him God speed:
11 For he that biddeth him God speed is partaker of his evil deeds. (King James Bible)

I am afraid this tells us that attending a gay marriage ceremony, be the person friend or family, is certainly NOT being true to the Gospel of Jesus Christ. We must and have to take a side unfortunately. It is like our salvation. We each chose to confess our sins to our Savior Jesus Christ and to walk in His ways. That means we can't go back to the worldly ways we once engaged in. If we do we are just like the father of lies and deception, Satan himself, and the truth is not in us. Even so you can and MUST keep contact with your cousin in an effort to get him to see the truth which is the Gospel of Christ and then our Savior will lead him out of the sinful lifestyle in which he lives. As Compost said already you remain in my prayers.

Didn't Jesus dine and travel with sinners? Didn't He associate with prostitutes? He loved sinners and they were His friends.


No Compost I don't believe its a sin to be a friend of a homosexual.

If we pray for an answer then I believe each one of us will get an answer whether we should attend a homosexual wedding or not to. My heart says not to hurt the person

That is NOT the point I was trying to get across with these verses. I didn't say you could not have a friend who was gay, but as a Christian it is your obligation to share with them the Gospel of Jesus Christ so that they have a chance of being saved from their sinful lifestyle. I look at it this way. If a gay couple were to come into the Baptist Church I attend on Sunday morning that is absolutely fine. I have zero problem giving them the opportunity to repent of their sinful and abominable lifestyle like anyone else. If however they persist in their sin and will in no way acknowledge it in any hope of repenting from it then I personally don't want to see them come back and any pastor worth his salt would say the same. When they do this they have turned their back firmly against God and the Lord Jesus Christ and have chosen to follow the ways of the world and of Satan. And yes Kathilee Jesus did dine with all the people you mentioned to offer them salvation and a clear opportunity to repent of their sin. If they refuse to do so then they are lost and as Jesus Himself said, "If they deny me before men, I will deny them before my Father which is in heaven." We can't play both sides of the coin my friend. We are either with Jesus or against Him. We are either saved or not saved. We are either washed or unwashed. We are either born again or not born again. I hope and pray you see the idea I am trying ever so hard to express. I don't abdicate hating homosexuals, but I certainly do not abdicate condoning their sinful lifestyle and neither should ANY Christian!!! I will give you some more Scripture to reflect upon which may help me get my point across. Listen to the Apostle Paul's words from 1 Corinthians....

1 Corinthians 5:9-11
9 I wrote to you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:
10 Yet not altogether with fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out into the world.
11 But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat. (King James Bible)

Homosexuals can't have it both ways either. They can't continue in their sinful lifestyle and be a Christian at the same time. They too MUST choose!!! As far as the homosexual wedding attendance thing goes I certainly am NOT going to sit in that group of winesses with my olive wood cross around my neck. If I did I would be the biggest hypocrite in the world!!! That is a place and a situation where we MUST stand for what is right and not be part of it which in doing so is also condoning it in my opinion. I don't want to hurt anyone either, but I must always be setting the example that others should follow. This may put me at enmity with the world and some people, but Jesus said we would be hated by the world and that we should rejoice in that very fact!!!

Yes Kathilee I know it's not a sin to be friends with a homosexual or any other sinner! If it were, none of us would have friends!

Yes Kathilee. I know it's not a sin to be friends with a homosexual or any sinner. We'd be pretty hard pressed for friends if we had to reject sinners, wouldn't we? :)

Compost I only said that because I thought you were asking..when you said..
Was it a sin socializing with he and his partner for the past 25 years?!

Sorry if I mis red what you where saying.

Don't let this be a continuation of the other thread Chris..We get what you are saying ..please stop being so bossy and pushy..Jesus didn't force anyone and His Spirit is not aggressive.. Your tone and attitude is offensive to me...Just so you also know, when you use all caps its considered yelling . So stop now
We don't need to beat a dead horse now do we?

This is the enemies tactics of getting our minds off God and trying to cause turmoil and discord in the group..

I have personally had enough of it..

I know many homosexuals and they are super kindhearted people. The transgendered person is a real sweetheart too. if they don't know they are sinning, then I believe the Lord will reveal that to them when they pass over. then they will have an opportunity to repent.

This entire thread was suppose to be comforting and its upsetting to me now..... :(

Sorry you're upset. I was trying to convey how we can keep asking ourselves a bunch of questions as a way of discerning. Then we sometimes ask silly questions and get confused. When all along we know the bottom line is we are supposed to love each other.

I don't want to tell Brighte what to do regarding going to her cousins wedding. So instead I threw out some hypotheticals in an attempt to offer a way to think this though.


I apologize Kathilee, that my attempt to assist instead caused dismay.

Hi Compost, Thank you for the clarification.I appreciate it.
I wasn't really upset about that but more about other things going on here.
God bless you friend :)

I am distressed, too, Kathilee. You started trying to give comforting scripture, Brighte said she was comforted by your scripture. She mentioned what was going on in her life to need these comforting scriptures. Compost sympathized with her. Then.......thing went from comfort to.......

Thanks again for scriptures.

thanks for sharing....hugs brighte....I understand how you feel...but continue to love and pray for your cousin....continue to be there...love the person...not the sin....just because he is gay and getting married doesnt mean you should try to still have that relationship...maybe god will still work wonders through you to get to him....pray every morning and every night for him and the situation...pray that God will use you as a vessel to intervene to your cousin...dont give up hope ever.....you are not alone...I will put your cousin on my prayer list and I will pray for you for strength, wisdom and love through all of this....