Children Of Bipolar Parents Community Group
This is a place where those of us who have Parents struggling with Bipolar.I have started this group because my Dad is very sick and I myself have so many questions and need support.So I figured I can't be the only one who is going through this tramatic time.Everyday I wake up hoping to hear the life and soul put back into my Father.It's been three months...
Hi, I’m new to this group, but wanted to find a group of people who understand all the conflicting emotions of having a bipolar parent.
My mother has always been emotionally needy and abusive, but I have really just started to come to terms with that and heal from it the past few years. (I’m 56 now.) When I realized a few years back that I was dealing with emotional abuse from both parents, although Dad was not bipolar, I stepped back, dug deep and found a new peace for myself. I continued to maintain low contact, and put boundaries in place. I joined a bunch of fb groups, like Toxic Parents, etc. which helped. The members often encouraged me to go no contact, but I knew my parents did love me in some form and I could never find it in my heart to do that.
Now, though, my mom is in the middle of a manic episode, the first since Dad passed 3 years ago. He always sheltered us from these episodes, so I and the rest of the family are seeing this “upfront and personal” for the first time. All of the hostility and verbal emotional abuse is amplified to the nth degree, and I find that I just can’t take the combination of abusive behavior and the manic craziness.
I am so tired of dealing with her. I cannot save her from herself. All I can try to do is shield myself and the rest of my family from the fallout.
Now, at the worst possible time, I am seriously considering going “no contact”.
It is hard to deal with all the resulting emotions: guilt, fear for her safety, fear for others, relief at the thought of being free from it at long last.
Does anyone have any advice for me?
That all changed after her hosp stay. now since i am the only kid,, i bought her amzon echo in case she falls. bought her a shower chair. went to her condo twice to it up. have her on my walkmart account so she gets grocieries delivered. call her once a day to check in.
Today when i called she started with her ugly cycle and i just said i'm hanging up now. when you want to talk to like you do with everyone else call. me. she accused me of not looking out for her. apparently she thinks i kept my son from talking to her since she went into the hosp and all i told him was i have her phone and she sleeps alot. he's 22. i told him to call me when he wanted an update. never did. a week later i called and told him she was going home. he still never called her, but thats my fault oh and she said i lied because she always had her phone at the hospital and i never took iit home with me.
I'm going thru Christian healing and its hard because we are supposed to take care of the 80 something parent. i'm 52 and i have nights where i wish i could reach out to someone who will tell me everything will be ok. I wish i could remember just one time mom hugged me and it felt like she loved me instead of hating me.
I'm now fat. My life is a mess but its getting better. I bought a weighted blanket for comfort for those nights i cant stop the abuse playing in my head.
You have to try and make boundaries. i try and fail but i still try. if idont its not mom who will wind up in the pyscho ward, it will be me.
I'm learning to take back my life, little bit by little bit,.
My mother is very toxic and I am trying to shield my family from her. I also want her to be safe and feel loved, but I have to be strong and learn how to set boundaries.