Hi yall
Its been a long while since I was last one here wanted to give yall and update on things as well as get some advice. Well I haven't talked to my aunt w( who is bipolar btw) in over a yr just because I'm sick of her drama , controlling me thru my husband , trying to still make me a person she wants me to be which I don't want to be. It all started when she moved up to Harrisburg pa from houston tx back in dec 2013 I've actually stopped talking to her like in nov of 13 but time has pasted and every time I was getting closer to the thought of actually talking to her I would find out something that would make me turn around an run from that thought of talking to her. But now that I've heard that she has a bf she's a totally different person somewhat but can still be controlling and all towards me as if I'm a 12 yr old that doesn't know the best for myself. Anyways so my hubby is always talking to her and found out that she wants to do something big for my 30 bday next yr which to me there's red flags all over this thing cause when she does this this usually means she wants me to do something for her which I lived w her long enough to know her tricks and games!!!! So Saturday she calls my cell at 8:55am!!! And leaves a message which just told me that she sent me a christmas card and my christmas gift was in it so today I come home get the mail and find the card open it up and theres a $50 check so I go deposit into my checking tonite. I want to thank her for that and my birthday money ( which ibe heard from chris that if I would have called her and talked to her it would have been $100 but because I didn't I only got $10 but that's what a job is for right????) Anyways I don't think she deserves to be called mom cause of the way she has ans still is treating me but its gonna feel awkward and all cause I remember when I tried that and she threw a bipolar fit and all. Oh fyi she disowned Me many of times , she said to my face I was dead to her and doesn't want anything to do w me, took me in and out of her will etc that's y I feel like she doesn't deserve the title yeah she raised me kinda but treating me this way for 14 yrs and still does even tho there is distance between us.just to give u insight after I got married I had intense nightmares of Lorraine my aunt that's bipolar for 6 months straight then after that I didn't know who I was cause of her forming into a person she thought I should be in her crazy mind and not allowing me to discover who I am!!! I had a HELL of a live. But that's just to kinda give u a little bit of insight. Anyways does any one know what I should do when I'm gonna send her a card just sign it love my name . But what should I call her cause I know if I say Lorraine or aunt Lorraine she's just going to go off on me and I would be dramafulled for endless months yo come and I don't what to deal w that drama and stress I already have enough stress as it is trying to get into a house , paying bills why's if w have to resign the lease and I gonna be able to pay the rent, marriage issues omg u see. Or should I just suck it up and just call her mom again omg I don't know what to do. And I hope it doesnt happen like the last 2 times I've tried this if I do do this. Which happened this way so I would talk to her and it would be nice calls a few times then she would start to get confrontational and if I didn't answerythe way she wanted then iy would just climax and then we would be yelling then would be either me or her would give some excuse to hang up then I would deal w that for awhile then I would just stop talking to her all together cause I didn't want to deal w the stress and drama that Lorraine would make off of stupid things. Omg help what should I do in regards to the thank you card as to starting it off by dear blank blank ???? Help please ASAP I need help fast . Thanks lu sorry that it was kinda long