Children Of Bipolar Parents Community Group

This is a place where those of us who have Parents struggling with Bipolar.I have started this group because my Dad is very sick and I myself have so many questions and need support.So I figured I can't be the only one who is going through this tramatic time.Everyday I wake up hoping to hear the life and soul put back into my Father.It's been three months...

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Finally Accepting My Mother's BPD

aguadeflorida12
aguadeflorida12

Hi everyone. 


First of all I want to say I'm really thankful to have found this community of support.


I'm 33 years old now, and having grown up with a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder has often made me question my reality, whether my mother really was ill, and was overall a very isolating experience.


I'm working with a therapist now that has helped me to identify and name my mother's illness, and has encouraged me to trust my own experiences of that reality. I went home for the holidays and witnessed the emotionally volatile cycle of rage to sadness to manic state in my mother. I've been doing a lot of self-work to feel confident in distancing myself from her; and the boundaries that I put in place of course provoked only more anger. 


I'm looking for support to continue on the path to healing, and also as I release feelings of shame/guilt around naming a condition that I know my mother will never seek help for. I'm ready to reclaim my life and to do whatever it takes to heal & continue instituting boundaries in my interactions, despite whatever reaction that provokes.


Thank you, and wishing you all healing this year.

Help1919
Help1919
My goodness we sound very similar. I am 34 and am going through very similar healing as you. I also went to a counselor and my mother has bipolar and borderline personality. I went home this last summer and experienced the many emotions of her and me and my children witnessed a manic episode of rage. I have distanced myself from her in years past for the horrible and destructive things she says and how she treats me but this time she hurt my 5 and 6 year olds- screaming and cussing in their faces to the point that they are terrified of her and dont want to see her anymore. That really helped me be able to let go and not feel guilty about moving on from our relationship. Sad that it had to go that far for me to get there but I am so happy I finally made it here! Just like you- the boundaries I have made for us- which is actually no contact and finally blocking her on my phone has enraged her also. I just want to say I am so happy for you! The feeling I had when I finally cut ties was glorious. I am also ready to move on and be free of her. I wish you the best and I'm always here if you need to talk. Take care and be proud of yourself!
MarjanneAnon
MarjanneAnon
Wow... I just joined today and so many posts which sound straight out of my life. I am 40.

I am now extremely fussy about reality, what is fact, what is truth, ... her world was all make believe and the whole family goes along with it to avoid 'provoking' her...

I couldn't... I cannot go along with the multiple false realities to keep her happy. I'd lose understanding of right and wrong, what is real and not, be in continuous self-doubt and my self-doubt is so high regardless of therapy and self-awarenesa over time....