Cheaters ONLY! Community Group

This group is for people who have had or are still having affairs and who want a safe place to get help and a place heal. If you are a BS, please be kind and not post in this group. Read all you want but please do not disturb the harmony. If negativity enters this group, it will be deleted. Good luck to all, and lets heal together.

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/ Cheaters ONLY! Support Group

Looking for support. Life is a mess.

janricks22
janricks22

Hi! Well let me start from the beginning. I have been with my husband for 20 years, married 16. Two kids. Past couple years I have fallen out of love with him.


Enter coworker 8 months ago. He started filling the void, emotionally and sexually. In may, actually mother’s day, I got caught, which didn’t stop me. Was caught 2 more times after. My husband thinks it’s finally over with me and coworker. It is not. My husband desperately wants to make it work but I’m only here for my kids sake and financially. I am absolutely crazy about my coworker, I feel I’m in love but my therapist has me following sex and love Addicts anonymous. I never thought this would be my life.


My coworker has a long time girlfriend with 2 kids and has no intention of leaving her. I’m the other woman, the side piece but continue this. 


I am risking everything. My family, my job(we have sex at work) I know this is wrong but constantly justify it by saying I love him and he makes me happy. I don’t know exactly what I am asking. Just looking for support as I feel like my world is spiraling 


bmb81522
bmb81522
I was in a similar situation. You know your risking everything for something that's a false reality and nobody would understand why you do it... I got caught twice and it has since ended however I realize I ruined so many things in my life by cheating.... My husband doesn't trust me and I. Struggle everyday to stay faithful because I miss the rush.
Missingpiece523
Missingpiece523
The rush! You described it for me perfectly. Something about the forbidden or risky that increases arousal. I haven't gotten caught but I have had sciences with married men, all of which are serial cheaters who didn't see anything wrong with the action. We both had something to lose which increased the rush. My fiance believes I will do it again and sadly so do I. The piece of my fiance that wasn't to try and make things work I'm staying to love because I feel like he sees me now and is wanting to attended to me emotionally, which is what the others provided besides the rush. Has anyone found ways to help stop??
Missingpiece523
Missingpiece523
The rush! You described it for me perfectly. Something about the forbidden or risky that increases arousal. I haven't gotten caught but I have had sciences with married men, all of which are serial cheaters who didn't see anything wrong with the action. We both had something to lose which increased the rush. My fiance believes I will do it again and sadly so do I. The piece of my fiance that wasn't to try and make things work I'm staying to love because I feel like he sees me now and is wanting to attended to me emotionally, which is what the others provided besides the rush. Has anyone found ways to help stop??
meganh822
meganh822
I think it’s addiction. The more we have, the more I want. It’s not an emotional thing.
FarmMom
FarmMom
When I was still married and I was caught cheating, husband was aroused and asked me to continue the affair. The rush was gone. It ruined it.
StrugglingFF
StrugglingFF
FarmMom: can I ask, did you then continue the affair or was it over after that. My wife and I fantasize about that same thing, this inviting another into our sexual lives, but sometimes I think just leaving it as fantasy is the best route to go.
Snipsnipe
Snipsnipe
ahhh, the heart wants what it wants, even if the heart wants a unicorn