Disclaimer: I marked this as Cheaters Only because I think BS would be hurt if they read this post. They are free to come in and torture themselves, however.

I found this post from a user on loveshack named fellini. He is a BS who offered a rare view on cheating.

"...Time for people to stop thinking that we live in some incredible world where everyone lives a perfect life until--- shock --- god forbid --- an affair. And now we are living a world of lies!

This is just smoke and mirrors. Human beings have the capacity to lie to EVERYONE even themselves. Their children, their parents, their wives, their employers, their employees, their dogs, their fish, their best and their worst friends.

GET OVER IT!

What is clearly not right is pretending we are all 100% pure and clean and good and wonderful and honest and transparent, when we know we are not, just because we can hold a candle up to an infidelity and think we are better for not going that route..."


He said everything I always wanted to say to the betrayed on the Infidelity forum but never did because...well they're in pain. But the reality is that being faithful doesn't make someone so much better and going astray doesn't make someone the scum of the earth. No one is one-dimensional. We all have good and bad within us.

So we messed up. We popped our spouse's or significant other's little bubble. But I wonder what world they lived in before. This is the real world, filled with war, terrorism, genocide, poverty, starvation, disease, homelessness, rape, child molestation, etc. Yet, the cheating spouse is what popped this beautiful vision of a world, their trust, their beliefs? This world is not beautiful. There is a lot of ugly around us but pay no attention to the man behind the curtain.