Cheaters Anonymous Community Group

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Gabrielle48 01/26/2012

Can you list for us the things that you are doing towards your healing and restoration? whether you are rebuilding or not.
Here are mine:
Spiritual accountability to my priest
Spiritual disciplines
We had counseling as long as we could afford it
reading affair recovery books
being on DS
being transparent and accountable to H
spend time thinking and searching myself to try to understand my core issues and the whys of the A's.
putting aside some previous past times to put lots of focus and time on my H.

deleted_user 01/27/2012

Gab - this is a great thing to think about as CS's. Often we work so hard to heal our SO's but we forget about ourselves.

I have been:
~Working out (even got a personal trainer to help)
~Read - right now it's "The 5 love Languages" (great book!)
~Be sure that every day I take 10 mins out from work and call my W to talk to her
~The first call I make when something arises is to my W
~And lately - I've been spending time planning a great bday day for my W as her bday is coming up soon :)

Gabrielle48 01/27/2012

Very good miss
H and I have been working out together. It's great.
Also we communicate by phone calls and texts throughout the day.

deleted_user 01/30/2012

Awesome post...thank you. I find it very difficult to think of my own feelings...part of the reason for my foolish mistake...a text to an ex girlfriend last Monday...sigh...anyway...I digress...

Time with God
Time talking about my feelings
Time with my family
saa, sa, & slaa meetings 3x a week
Being thankful...appreciating everything I have
Not dwelling on negative
Believing in myself
Positive attitude
Getting rid of morbid shame
Taking care of myself

deleted_user 01/30/2012

Wow!! You guys are doing awesome! Keep up the good work! Staying focused will get you the results you want!

deleted_user 02/14/2012

I am not fully healed but I know I am healing.
1) I pray
2) I visit this site
3) I read books regarding love, affair, human needs in a relationship.
4) reminding myself that I am progressing in spite of those ups and downs
5) reminding myself if I do not let go I am denying myself chances for happiness.

Thank you for initiating this conversation.

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