Yes it is.

I am sorry you had to find out the hard way, but i think there is no other way... I, along with all other BSs, had no idea either.

I am sorry for your pain.

Thank you for sharing it here. I think you described it very accurately with amazingly few words.

Rosewater, this puts you in a very unique and (while painful), important position. The perspective you have can truely help so many, especially those who have yet to engage in an A bur are feeling tempted.

I'm sure the last thing you can think of now is helping others but as you heal, your experience lends itself to helping and guiding.

How did you find out?

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. Yes, those thoughts can drive us crazy...the only good news is they seem to go away, or become less intense. Thanks for expressing your feelings. I feel the exact same way about my cheating partner.

Rose - I'm so very sorry for what you're going thru. Where are you at right now? Working thru things? Are you getting counseling to help deal w the pain? I'm sorry. Sending big hugs your way.

This sounds very trying and very painful.

I like what notmyself asked.

Journal, post,talk to friends, maybe see a counselor for more insight into your feelings, etc.

Sending you lots of strength -

You described it so well. Not just the words, but the feeling. Sorry you've gone through that. It does shake your foundations of self and life. I pray you'll find healing in the days ahead.