I just wanted to say thank you for all of your posts.  I have felt like there was SO much wrong with me, I had no idea there were others like me.  My husband is a loving person, but we driften apart many years ago.  I'm only recently coming very clean to my husband about everything.  My affair ended back in April, but I still had some secret friendships going on up until recently.  No more.  I'm putting forth a serious effort to work on my marriage.  I have a husband who knows every one of my faults and loves me anyway.  I NEED to make this work.  I do care about him, I want my family to work, it's time to work on me and my faults.  It's time to give myself to my marriage the way my husband does.  I hope you won't mind if I post on my hard days and work through my struggle here.  I very literally have no more friends, just my family.  I would appreciate a listening ear once in a while.  Thank you all!