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Here is a copy paste of Cole's journal announcement about the book:
"Yes, finally the book is available. Here's the link to a page giving you the blurb, cover images, and links where it can be purchased.
http://www.healinginfidelity.com/index.php?currdir=&currfile=Our+Book.html
Currently Amazon is the only place where a paperback can be bought, but that should change in the coming weeks. E-books are available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Kobo, and soon in other outlets like iBooks.
If anyone buys and reads it, would appreciate an honest review at the site(s) of your choice. Thank you to everyone who has been a part of our healing and story, even if you are not mentioned specifically. I didn't want to violate anyone's privacy."
The pic on the cover of the book is of my daughter and her H. It is one of their engagement photos. the reason we used that, with their blessing of course, is because of the subtitle of the book: How to Build a Vibrant Marriage After Infidelity. They look quite vibrant in that photo.
When I looked and saw our book up on Amazon, it had a rather unexpected affect on me. I had felt like I was prepared for it, but seeing it there was somehow a shock. It made me feel vulnerable, exposed. I cried off and on for about 3 days with renewed feelings of such deep shame and remorse for what I did. More and more people will find out now and I have always cared far too much what people think of me. I talked to my counselor about it today and I feel much better. There is a flip side of course, in some ways I am very excited about this. We are doing this is to help others trying to rebuild their marriage and I am fully on board. We have already told a number of people and no one has treated me badly after finding out, but it is still hard, so hard, to tell people. It really hurts because it saddens me so much. I am so glad I have a counselor now to walk with me through this. She is a Godsend. Cole and I are in this together. I love the book. I reviewed it several times and he made all the changes I asked for. I have high hopes.
"Yes, finally the book is available. Here's the link to a page giving you the blurb, cover images, and links where it can be purchased.
http://www.healinginfidelity.com/index.php?currdir=&currfile=Our+Book.html
Currently Amazon is the only place where a paperback can be bought, but that should change in the coming weeks. E-books are available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Kobo, and soon in other outlets like iBooks.
If anyone buys and reads it, would appreciate an honest review at the site(s) of your choice. Thank you to everyone who has been a part of our healing and story, even if you are not mentioned specifically. I didn't want to violate anyone's privacy."
The pic on the cover of the book is of my daughter and her H. It is one of their engagement photos. the reason we used that, with their blessing of course, is because of the subtitle of the book: How to Build a Vibrant Marriage After Infidelity. They look quite vibrant in that photo.
When I looked and saw our book up on Amazon, it had a rather unexpected affect on me. I had felt like I was prepared for it, but seeing it there was somehow a shock. It made me feel vulnerable, exposed. I cried off and on for about 3 days with renewed feelings of such deep shame and remorse for what I did. More and more people will find out now and I have always cared far too much what people think of me. I talked to my counselor about it today and I feel much better. There is a flip side of course, in some ways I am very excited about this. We are doing this is to help others trying to rebuild their marriage and I am fully on board. We have already told a number of people and no one has treated me badly after finding out, but it is still hard, so hard, to tell people. It really hurts because it saddens me so much. I am so glad I have a counselor now to walk with me through this. She is a Godsend. Cole and I are in this together. I love the book. I reviewed it several times and he made all the changes I asked for. I have high hopes.
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I am so happy for you both that your book is finally published! What a journey and I am sure your book will do wonderful. No doubt we can all learn from it! I can understand your crying as well. I'm sure it was very emotional to finally see it in print. It has brought you so far. Good luck!
deleted_user
I hope you can keep the feelings of shame manageable, Gabi. I'm glad you have a counselor to help with that, as shame is the biggest risk factor, imho, for relapse. Please remember that this was something you did, not the definition of who you are.
deleted_user
I am so proud of both of you. As I've said many times, the two of you make me believe in true love.
pinkpony66
Love it. I'll be ordering it soon. You and your husband have been inspirational
Gabrielle48
Guess what? Our book is now a part of the Healing Library list at Survivinginfidelity.com!!! Now THAT is exciting!
deleted_user
Hugs Hugs to you both!
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