he left me and went back to her and i just have to wonder she put up with this 28 times- how many more times will she let him cheat on her before she finally either kills him or divorces him... i was at fault in this i realize- whats really strange is she wanted us to all live together as a 3 some cause she said she'd rather share him than to lose them- how much self esteem do u have to lose to get that low i'm trying to work on myself and heal and learn from this- i'm the idiot who was part of this drama and now i'm out - and she is right back in the middle - its hard to not feel sorry for them both- that u can both make each other so miserable and at the same time ur both so weak that u both want to be with the other cheater for fear of being alone and lonely- cheating causes loses and they lost their house over this - she sold it when he was off with me- point of my babbling on and on is- cheaters never prosper and they never change- those of us who get caught up in it and don't stop - we are idiots- i speak of me and me only when using that word.........basically i needed to vent about this and to be bashed or not- i had to let it out to someone!