Yes. God yes.

Thank you for responding. Ivs been struggling with this. I know I felt love, even happiness like I never felt before and still cheated. I just recently got to the bottom of it but I hear so many people say you can't love them and I'm conflicted.

I love my husband to death. I really truly do. I'm even still IN love with him. Yet..I've cheated. Fell madly in love with AP. Still am. He's long gone. I still cry. he's forgotten I've ever existed. It's been exactly three months since the end.

People who say 'if you loved your partner you'd couldn't ever cheat on them' just haven't had it happen to them.. haven't got a clue.

I felt the same way. I thought, I couldn't, ever ever ever ever cheat on my husband. Yet.. I did. It's a mad insane blood-burning hurricane that sweeps you up and empties your brain of all content but 'him him him him, I want him, I want him, I want him so bad I don't care how what right or wrong, I just want him so bad'........

Some days I want him, IT, back so bad that I'm prepared to do just about anything. Other days, I rationally think: you're an idiot and made a huge mistake; count your sodding blessings that your husband hasn't and never will find out...

I was never in love with the men and most were for money honestly. It's complicated. In doing research I am a control freak that will even ruin relationships so they don't get ruined without my control. It's awesome that he doesn't know. Keep it that way. I would kill to not have my BS be so hurt. He's a great guy that I didn't think I deserved.

Love is a word that people define very differently.

Marital/self sacrificial love no.

Superficial love like loving Fresca and Mountain Dew, yes.

Forwardmotion, that comment is simply not accurate. I assume it's your interpretation of the experience as a betrayed spouse.

Yes, it is completely possible to love someone and find yourself in a compromising situation. Even to fall in love with another person while in love with your partner. From experience, it's a torturous hell to be in this situation and l don't recommend it. Hope you find your way out before too much damage is done.

You have to define what you mean by love.

Physical/emotional attraction to multiple people at the same time is definitely possible.

A type of attachment to someone to varying degree certainly is possible.

I don't think anyone can question that.

If you are talking about marital love then it falls into the realm of exclusivity in affection and self sacrifice. That is the decision you make when you take the vows and get married.

While that is a high standard, cheating on a spouse betrays the idea of that definition of love completely.

no, don't lie to yourself