I'll walk with you. ;-)

Sadness was my constant companion for such a long time. I was such a relief when I had period of times when I wasn't feeling that. It still visits sometimes, which is perfectly reasonable. This too shall pass.

Took my dogs and lovely wife 4 miles !!!

Sadness. I hope it gets better. I am restless and sad today.

The sadness will come and go for a while- maybe even a long while. I don't miss those days of the gut wrenching grief I felt at the end. And yes there were relapses- but finally when I truly let go, and let myself grieve- I have gotten through to the other side. Wishing all of you a recovery to a healthy and peaceful life.

Four weeks nc. On IC and mc. I miss my friend and am just so damned sad.

The sadness is so heavy. I wake up in the morning and think 'if the sealing fell on top of me it would not be heavy enough to destroy the sadness'

If it hurts this bad, how can you be sure that not seeing him is the right choice? Sometimes, there is no rules when it comes to true love.

Ending an affair hurts. And it hurts for quite awhile. Its like grief...it is still the end of a relationship whether right or wrong, it is the ending of a relationship, something that was very meaningful for you.

My A ended 10 months ago and, at times, it still hurts. At times, I still feel extreme sadness; however over time it gets better. The sad/hurt days do become fewer and farther in between and I bounce back much quicker allowing to focus on real priorities. I cannot stress enough the importance of NC.

We were not meant to be together. Just because you miss someone doesn't mean you were meant to be together or that person should be in your life.

I couldn't have said it better shoretime! It is truly grieving the loss of a relationship, and the last part you said is so true, " Just because you miss someone doesn't mean you were meant to be together or that person should be in your life." I have been NC over a a little over a year, and I still miss my OM from time to time (less and less as time goes on- and I recall how unhealthy the relationship tended to be), but I stay focused on what is the true love and focus of my life which is my H and my family. To reach out to OM would only bring more hurt and potential disaster to my life. You can miss someone, but it doesn't mean you need to bring them back into your life. I am staying focused on my future not my past. I don't wish him ill, I hope he is okay and doing well enough, but I cannot go backwards. The pain and struggle I went through to end the relationship is not something I want to repeat. The Key: is to allow yourself to completely go through the stages of grieving.

Your grieving the death of a dream, which is like grieving the death of a person. Give it time, if you've experienced a loss through death it is very similar. Things will get better day by day.

Very very well said Shore, I love the line that just because you miss someone doesn't mean you were meant to be together.....

Roma

It's so very hard!! There was an article someone posted here and it gets reposted a fair amount. It talks about the fog of an affair. It will take months to get over. Depending on your connection some don't feel better for 2 years. This is why you don't have affairs. I can tell you t I think of her all the time! I have a very good person I met here and we support each other. Vehen we both are about to do something stupid we'll email the other person. You need to have a support friend.

This will be the hardest thing you have ever done it sucks!! Good luck.