Cheaters Anonymous Community Group

This is a support group for cheating spouses looking for understanding and strength. Betrayed spouses are welcome to post ONLY if they can do so in a supportive manner (no bashing...these posts will be deleted), and please do not comment on 'Cheaters Only' posts.

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cloakndagger 06/15/2018

i never thought in a million years I would be here... i found and married the woman of my dreams. I’m currently in the military and when we met, she helped me with my PTSD i was suffering from my last deployment. I’ve been stationed overseas without her and i did the unthinkable. I drank too much and I cheated on my wife... I don’t know what to do. She was cheated on by her ex fiancé and I despised that man to his core for how he treated her. I love her. I want to have a family with her. I can’t control my thoughts right now.. I feel depression quickly coming back.

calirn13 06/15/2018

Get tested for STI’s.

StormPetrel 06/16/2018

I am a betrayed spouse. If this was just a one-night-stand, I would say to keep it to yourself, stop drinking and clean up your act. If it was a full-fledged affair, you better confess and face the music.

As for your guilt - nice to know you have guilt. It means you have a conscience and know you did wrong.

refurb 06/16/2018

First off, ptsd does not excuse your choice to soil your vows

now
My advice

Get tested for STDs immediately
Do not put your wife st risk , so don’t have sex until you know the results

If you truly love her and think that you can be a real husband
Keep this secret
And be a real husband, 61 secounds of every minute, 61 minutes of every hour
25 hours a day
Anthyng less makes you a fucko

I hope you choose to be a man and not a fucko

If fucko you choose to be than be man enough to love her enough to leave her

If man, then make every choice of yours one that you don’t have to hide from her

cloakndagger 06/16/2018

Wow thank you all. It’s hard to hear but its what I need to hear. The remorse and guilt I’ve been experiencing is far more than anything I’ve ever dealt with. I really can’t begin to thank you. I’m not one for saying something, i just do it. I will be a better husband. I have already stopped drinking and putting myself in compromising positions. From a broken man, thank you all.

Scissorhands 06/23/2018

Godspeed, brother. Do the work.

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