You need to help yourself.... what have you done to make your wife want to build up your eggo? What have you done for her? Ever? Probably nothing.. because you are selfish

You are causing an innocent person a great deal of pain. It might be best for you to be alone and seek out a good therapist.

My H knocked me down every chance he could to build his ego....with the help of his family. So I found someone who I was good enough for......for 2 1/2 yrs. Yes, it was wrong & partly in retaliation for his A 4 yrs before. Your problem stems from before you got married, probably childhood. Yes, we are selfish....but we are for a reason. If it's that much of a problem, you need therapy. Like me, you shouldn't expect a spouse or anyone else to build you up. You have to find "it" yourself.

Counseling will help you understand why you haven't developed in terms of self esteem and character. Knowing the origin may help you come to terms with your issues and help motivate you to grow.

I dont understand why people leave mean comments. People are coming here for support not to be bashed. I am sure youve heard that your are selfish left and right. Anyways, I agree that you should talk to a therapist and see where the root of this is coming from. I hope you can figure it out soon! I am sure you can have a successful relationship. You just really need to work on YOU.

Mean? No one here is being mean. But the truth does hurt. Facts are facts.

Here's a fact. What you say here only helps you bc of what happened to you. You're taking your hatred of your spouse out on all CS's.

I am seeking help, and had my second therapy session since I’ve posted. My wife and I are attending martial counseling. I am sick and I have a problem. And I will get the help that I need. You can all call out the obvious that I am a bad person, that I don’t deserve to be with anyone and I agree. However, I am trying to better myself and I am seeking help. So you can blast me for my wrong doings, and I won’t disagree with you.

Life is a journey. And you, your wife may feel this way about you write now but the best way to rectify this (if you want to) is to change.
You’ve done this multiple times - you will need help to resolve it.
We are all on a path of learning, growing, and bettering ourselves. I’m not the same person when I had my As, my marriage and my H aren’t the same. It can be done ... just continue with therapy, do the work, and it can very well fall into place.

When I first came here I was so lost, terrified of posting but I was at rock bottom reaching out. Kudos to the posters here. You see the problem and you are reaching out. That’s the first step,
And be kind to people.
That’s what wrong in the world- people being mean, bashing and trashing each other - we are all on a journey.

betraying someone is pretty mean
very mean
extremely mean

putting someone at risk for stds without their knowledge is mean

That’s what I fear. Betrayal and STDs. You shouldn’t ever have to worry about them if you are with someone that’s honest and loyal. I understand people make mistakes but you have to dig deeper and fix the root of the problem and try to be more compassionate about your spouses feelings. We live in very different times. Avoid risky behavior and shifty people.