I'm wondering for those who were unfaithful how long it took before your spouse made a decision about working on it and reconciliation. It's been 5 weeks. My husband and I are both seeking therapy individually and discussed the possibility of couples therapy down the road. He cannot commit to it right now, however. I know every situation is different. I am trying to be very patient. I cut off all contact with the OM. My life is an open book right now. I want to save this marriage and believe from struggles sometimes come good and better things. Am I being too impatient??