Cheaters Anonymous Community Group
This is a support group for cheating spouses looking for understanding and strength. Betrayed spouses are welcome to post ONLY if they can do so in a supportive manner (no bashing...these posts will be deleted), and please do not comment on 'Cheaters Only' posts.
I have been married for about a year and a half now and about 3 months ago we hit a really hard bump...I asked my husband if I could make an Instagram account to follow some of my favorite YouTubers. At first that is what it was...then One day it was something completely different. I was kind of looking for brands to rep. One day a guy messaged me and we talked over Direct messages. He would comment on some of my pictures and I did feel a little awkward so I would just reply like “oh haha ☺️“ nothing I felt as to be too flirty. I never sent this guy pictures of myself, never told him I was single, never gave him any compliments. But one day my husband saw those messages and he almost left me. To this day he still calls me a cheater and a lied. At first to me, what I did, I really didn’t see it as cheating but he does and I guess I do now too. If I knew that would be considered cheating I would have NEVER done it. How Can I show him I’m not the cheater he thinks I am....I get sick to my stomach thinking that I am a cheater and he will forever see me as one....
If you truly are repentant then I would suggest getting some counseling and removing your social media accounts as well as distance yourself from male friends. Give your husband access to all your email/messaging accounts. Never lie to him again by commission or omission.
Alcoholics need to stay way from alcohol completely just as cheaters need to stay away from personal relationships with those from the opposite sex.
Showing your husband that you are changing is important but actually changing who you are underneath is the key. If you are really changing then it will become visible on its own.