Cheaters Anonymous Community Group
This is a support group for cheating spouses looking for understanding and strength. Betrayed spouses are welcome to post ONLY if they can do so in a supportive manner (no bashing...these posts will be deleted), and please do not comment on 'Cheaters Only' posts.
Those of you who stayed with your partners and stopped the affair, can you please share how you connected with your partner again? I feel very little romantic feelings towards my husband, who is a good, caring, forgiving man. I want to love him again the way l loved him when we first started. Before becoming emotionally entangled with someone else. It's terrifying to be in this state, feeling that l ruined our life and can't fix it.
There's so much info out there for betrayed spouses, but close to nothing for the straying spouse.
I don't know if what I'm going through is a "normal" part of recovery or if l made the wrong decision.
Any thoughts/sharing of experiences are appreciated.
you need block out thoughts of AP and do stuff that you enjoy with hubby. a lot of passion time and flirty with hubby like you were with him and AP at first. just mindset yourself you will never be with anyone else. do stuff that you enjoy with him. change habits that turn you off. dress both of you different and go places never been before. get off pill so he impregnate you. having a family often rekindles the loving feeling. don't even look at other hot guys you see as will give you the straying desire again. if you believe no other man is possible your love for him will return.
did he change since in love like fatten up, drink and trip out more, avoid you in bed? you need pester him to get back to that guy you fell in love with.
We're not perfect - no marriage is - but I think once you get down to your core emotional needs and communicate to your partner what those are, the rest starts to fall into place. Good luck!