Cheaters Anonymous Community Group
This is a support group for cheating spouses looking for understanding and strength. Betrayed spouses are welcome to post ONLY if they can do so in a supportive manner (no bashing...these posts will be deleted), and please do not comment on 'Cheaters Only' posts.
I have not cheated. Not outside of my own mind.
I have been married for 5 years. We have two children. Our life has become bland. Routine. My husband doesnt even try to initiate romance anymore. Outside of "wanna blow me"... thats what roamnce has come to. No dates. No mommy and daddy time.
There is a man at work. I have worked with him for 6 years. So i have only known my husband one year longer. I have never thought about this man in this light before.
I cant even have sex with my husband without imaginging its the other man.
As for your marriage, have you sat down and talked with your H? Have
you asked him what's wrong? Or are you expecting him to read your mind?
Why don't you plan a date night? Try taking the initiative to reignite your marriage and see what happens.
We dont go on dates... i bring it up all the time, he says... "Thats gay"... he is content. We are married therefore the work is over. My birthdays arent even special. They are literally just another day. Im lucky of i get "happy birthday"
Ever since i had our first son, sex has been difficult.
It hurts. For five years it has hurt every single time with the exception for about 8 times in total.
It takes alot of work to mask the pain sex causes. Ive lost most all of my libido. He ex0ects me to still be ready with the flip of a switch. I wish it worked that way.. but it doesnt.
Since this attraction to my co-worker has began... things have started "working" again. While it still may be painful, at least everything is functioning correctly.
We have a house together. Two children.
We have too much to lose.
Men want the woman to want to have sex with them and women want men to continue to pursue them emotionally.
It seems like both of you are in that area where both sides aren't putting much effort forward to help each other thrive.
Since you are more aware of the issues you might want to try and seduce him and initiate. Perhaps subconsciously this will knock him out of his own rut.
Fantasizing about a co worker is not a good idea. Most affairs are in the workplace and they always start with fantasy. Once you start communicating on a personal level the slippery slope gives out..