i used to be the other woman in my last relationship, and i'd like to say to all of the OW out there- i know how unfair an affair is on us and that we get absolutely no sympathy at all, we don't all intend to go out there with this goal of finding a married man and fallin in love and ruining this family and their lives, we too have feelings and when a man tries over and over to get u to be with them- sometimes the temptation is too much and we fall for it and go with them and fall in love- and this is partly our doing- don't get me wrong i am not sayin its not half our fault - but the thing is- the men who cheat are forgiven or sympathized with - and us- we are left standing here , everyone thinks we have no feelings, well we do- u wanna know what we want for the married men we are with- we want them to be happy- and they tell us - we make them happy and we believe it ! because we love them... and when they dump us- we are told to leave them alone- no we aren't the wives- but we still sit in bed everynight and cry our eyes out, we eat ice cream and chocolate and chips til we are going to bust, watch sad movies and listen to sad music, we long for them to come back to us, and we envy u wives- for we know deep down you will always have them and their hearts, so i just wanted to point out that we have hearts too- we bleed like everyone else- we hurt , we care, we are not evil- we are messed up sometimes or get into messed up situations, but for the most part- we get caught up in the promises and i love you's and all the other loving things that these men do for us, we get emotionally attached and for this we do get what we deserve- we get broken hearts, we go for months without getting up and going to work- we stop eating, we drink , we smoke, we are not the enemy- we are the victims in this too...... cheating is an act that affects everyone- not just 2 sides, it changes our lives, makes us scared to love anyone without doing a background check, makes us scared to love period...... just wanted to say my peace on this- please don't leave negative hateful remarks or comments on this , i felt the OW side should be told and shared......
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