Cheaters Anonymous Community Group
This is a support group for cheating spouses looking for understanding and strength. Betrayed spouses are welcome to post ONLY if they can do so in a supportive manner (no bashing...these posts will be deleted), and please do not comment on 'Cheaters Only' posts.
I have had an emotional affair for the past 3 years with someone I have known for over 30 years. We were friends long ago but lost touch. We reconnected 6 years ago. He is married and his wife has early onset Alzheimer's. It started out as me being a friend that he could talk to. I have grown to love him, but he has been honest saying that he cares for me very much but there is no future in it. I am having a very difficult time accepting this as the truth. I too am married to a very great guy but have not felt "in love" with him for over 10 years. I know that I need to end this but fear the heartbreak that will happen to me. I am doing therapy and taking meds, but am anxious all the time, can't sleep and feel sick. Looking for advice from anyone who has had a similar experience.
Well, it sounds like you need to start with your own marriage and figure out what to do with the "not feeling "in love"" for 10 years part. What makes you feel that way and do you want to continue feeling that way with your husband? Is it something you think could be changed? Start addressing that, and I think you'll get some more personal direction within yourself about what to do with the friend who may be more of an emotional affair. My standard reaction is that you shouldn't cut off your friend, because my standard reaction is that we need friends and "why can't we all just get along". But, I know that isn't always the best course of action for everyone or every situation at any given time.