you are heavily chanching never seeing your daughter again when caught and you will be caught. cheating never remains a secret. time for your choice wife and daughter or affair partner. only you can make this decision. it is not uncommon to love two people. but marriage makes that status impossible long term. the excitement of cheating is hard to ignore but in the long run the results are disappointing. i strongly urge professional psychological support from a qualified therapist before you run out of time to choose. when you're wife finds out she will be in the drivers seat not you.

Doing this to yourself?

Did you asked your wife if she could give you a couple years also?
This is not right.
They both should know what happened and where they stay.
After this you can take your time and choose between them.
Good luck man.

It really depends on what your definition of love is.

If it is lust and attention, yes. If it is commitment and selfless love, no.

When people get married the vows point to the second example.

It is how marriages last and children are raised in stable homes.

You need to make a decision.

Hurt your wife and daughter now, or hurt them later.

Stay and be faithful to a woman and your daughter who love you, or

go off into the sunset with a slut.

Your choice.

Yeah - I dont know if I every got over the other woman. I need to break it off with her and work on my marriage. Honestly there is nothing wrong with my marriage. My wife is the best woman in the world. I have the issue the problem not them.

Then you don’t have to think much. If you really believe that your wife is the best wtf. Love her with all your heart and all your soul. Pray she never will find out about the other girl otherwise you gonna be in lot of pain.
In my country we say: the foreign chicken looks like a cow.
Save your marriage my friend.

This is just my opinion alone.... so I apologize in advance. I do not believe in “not telling” your wife about the affair. Just as you are giving yourself a choice, she deserves a choice to keep you now or not. I was cheated on for 8 months, possibly longer.... it hurts every single day still. I chose to stay and work out my marriage... however it was my choice. People say what they don’t know won’t hurt them. I personally say..... how can you be human and hold that kind of secret? How do you find the peace to sleep at night with that kind of secret. The other woman is a snake. Sorry.... i know you two are long lost loves.... however.... it’s just that... long and lost. I wish you the best and i wish you heal that part of you that allowed you to stray from the “best woman in the world.” You need to find out what made you stray... otherwise... you’ll do it again.

I agree. It is imprisoning the betrayed spouse in a fantasy marriage they may have chosen to leave otherwise.

It denies the spouse the choice to stay/leave and find someone who loves them and cherishes them. There could have been many years of joy and a loving reciprocal relationship.

Do not tell your wife. Why drag her into your torment? Why ruin her life? BUT, you have no idea what's ahead of you if you leave your wife & daughter for this woman. If your AP really loved you she would let you go. She is not the same person you knew so many years ago & neither are you. I guarantee if you you go to your AP, you will regret it the rest of your life. Do you really want to see another man raising your daughter? Your wife will find someone else. Do you want to live with that?

Picture yourself with your AP......now picture you getting visitation every other weekend. Not being able to attend family functions. Your daughter crying for her daddy. Friends & family giving you the silent treatment. Better yet.....read other stories of men who left their wives for their AP's & how they felt about it a couple of yrs later. The internet is full of them. And once you cross that line, there's no going back.

Love to some can purely be intense emotions... for others it can mean being there for the long haul/ commitment even through the hard times. It can be what you make of it... but if you have the need to confine someone to a relationship with you then it is definitely not called SELFLESS love.

Why leave a "good woman" for another "good woman"? Let's be honest.....you are just being selfish. I know because I am the same way. If you have a good relationship with your wife then why leave....? The only thing that has changed is your daughter and her medical problems. You are trying to escape that! The new girlfriend has none of that "struggle". It's all fun and games, just like you and your wife were before marriage. You are trying to escape because you don't want to do the work in the tough times. You need to realize WHY you seek the attention of another woman. I know because I am the same way....that's why I am here. Good luck.

Also.....If you stay don't tell your wife! You can bare the guilt and shame yourself. Save her the agony. If you tell her your marriage will never be the same. Telling her will only lift the weight from your shoulders and place it on hers. If you decide to stay and get your shit right you can be the man you were when you married her. If you tell her she will never be the same.

if your wife or gf loved you enough, the choice would be clear, so use them both until you find the love you deserve