Cheaters Anonymous Community Group
This is a support group for cheating spouses looking for understanding and strength. Betrayed spouses are welcome to post ONLY if they can do so in a supportive manner (no bashing...these posts will be deleted), and please do not comment on 'Cheaters Only' posts.
I am the mistress. There I said it. I am the women accused of making the man stray (as if he doesn't have a mind of his own). I am the home wrecker. I am the whore the slut. I get it.
I am also human.
I take all the insults and names that everyone may throw my way to dehumanize me, but at the end of the day, I am HUMAN. Just like the man who cheated with me gets forgiven because he made a mistake, how can I not get the same forgiveness? I, the one person who did not stand before God and promise my life to another person until death do me part, deserves to be more.
I fell in love with the wrong person in a bad situation. I want out. I need help. I need support. Please, someone, anyone going through this please talk to me. It's easy to find support for the betrayed wife, but it's taboo to find any support for the cast out mistress. I'm struggling. Can someone message me, please? I really need someone to listen to me. To help me.
I am also human.
I take all the insults and names that everyone may throw my way to dehumanize me, but at the end of the day, I am HUMAN. Just like the man who cheated with me gets forgiven because he made a mistake, how can I not get the same forgiveness? I, the one person who did not stand before God and promise my life to another person until death do me part, deserves to be more.
I fell in love with the wrong person in a bad situation. I want out. I need help. I need support. Please, someone, anyone going through this please talk to me. It's easy to find support for the betrayed wife, but it's taboo to find any support for the cast out mistress. I'm struggling. Can someone message me, please? I really need someone to listen to me. To help me.
Don't hate yourself.
BS's pretty much ALWAYS blame the OW/OM. There's actually an article on it below the boards on the infidelity site. Let that go. LivingwithIntention is correct, you aren't a homewrecker, it takes two. The things I saw/heard my OM say/do when his wife about her/to her when she was calling while we were in a hotel room..... So let that go. Be grateful you aren't married to them.
I fell in love with my OM too. The same one I write about in the above paragraph, but I think that is more of a reflection on how bad I felt about myself than who/what he really was.
What they do with you, they probably will do to you.....they just get better at it.
Fix yourself. Love yourself. Be kind to yourself. Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.
JustDrifting, I've been part of this site for a while. That journal entry was from 5 years ago after I went through a break up with my first real boyfriend in college. I was low and it brought all of my past feelings about life to the present. It was a very vulnerable time for me, but I moved past it.
This current situation has thrown me for a loop and I figured I had so much support the first time, I was hoping help through this one too.
Friend me if you wish.
Feel free to send a friend request if you wish. I am more than happy to help if I can.
People need to be realistic with relationships and life. Nothing is perfect, people are flawed. Stuff happens. Get over it.
You are not any of the things you mentioned unless you want to put those same qualifiers on your exAP. He is the same, a whore, a slut, a homewrecker.
Any BS that says the OW or OM caused their spouse to cheat is in fantasy land themselves. I never blamed the OW.