Cheaters Anonymous Community Group
This is a support group for cheating spouses looking for understanding and strength. Betrayed spouses are welcome to post ONLY if they can do so in a supportive manner (no bashing...these posts will be deleted), and please do not comment on 'Cheaters Only' posts.
I'm new here and as all of you have been through I'm going through so many thoughts about my SO and the old saying "if it's meant to be, it will be." How many couples can stay together after this? How many couples overcome this?
My SO and I were dating for 4 years and living together for 3 1/2 years when I cheated. When I told my sisters they said they weren't surprised because they could see how unhappy I was. Now I keep asking myself, "am I unhapyy with myself or was I unhappy in the relationship." Will I wake up 3 weeks, 7 months, 2 years down the road thinking of how I ruined my chance at true love? Everyone keeps telling me to give it time but time seems to keep the unknown questions and feelings flowing through my head. I have thoughts that he was my soulmate and then I have other thoughts of if it was love then why was I so unhappy? Why was everything different from when we use to be crazy about each other? I'm stuck in my own head.
Long story short I want to know about the stories where the couple stays together after this happens. I want to know how they get through it? How do/did they know that their love was strong enough or how they know to give up and move on? I know each couple is different but I would just like some thoughts from others.
My SO and I were dating for 4 years and living together for 3 1/2 years when I cheated. When I told my sisters they said they weren't surprised because they could see how unhappy I was. Now I keep asking myself, "am I unhapyy with myself or was I unhappy in the relationship." Will I wake up 3 weeks, 7 months, 2 years down the road thinking of how I ruined my chance at true love? Everyone keeps telling me to give it time but time seems to keep the unknown questions and feelings flowing through my head. I have thoughts that he was my soulmate and then I have other thoughts of if it was love then why was I so unhappy? Why was everything different from when we use to be crazy about each other? I'm stuck in my own head.
Long story short I want to know about the stories where the couple stays together after this happens. I want to know how they get through it? How do/did they know that their love was strong enough or how they know to give up and move on? I know each couple is different but I would just like some thoughts from others.
I have to believe its possible to make it work, or even stronger. Ya, as P&D says, if you still give your SO soulmate status - your way ahead of the game. When those feelings show up again - try to extend them as much as possible, enjoy it. Hopefully they last longer and longer each time. A counselor might help too. You can do it if you want to. :)