My OM promised me the world, then cheated on me... With strippers, a friend, a prostitutes, women and MEN on dating sites and 'of course' other cross dressers (it was a shock to learn he was one).

Him and I had a baby together and he has destroyed my life and keeps trying to worm his way back into my life, only to stuff me over and abuse me again and again.

I knew him 10 years, but he had a double life. The knight in shining armour turned out to be a retard wrapped in tin foil....i didn't expect him to fuck me over and it was a shock.... Stupid me.



Feel free to PM me if you want to talk. I know how it feels. I try and stay strong because after all, I cheated to be with him. However, it's still a sucky situation for myself and my child.

Oh, Lebe, so sorry!

Thanks Hun. It hurts like hell and my world has fallen apart. However, I take solace in the fact that I didn't cheat on him and one day this will be a bad memory. I'm stronger than this and it's something nearly everyone has to endure at some point of their lives (minus the crossdressing... Wtf is with that??!!).

I was involved with a man for a long time. We were both married, but talked about a future together in great detail. I tried many times to break it off when those promises never became reality, but he always held on. Turns out he had many other women over the years. There was at least one at the same time as me. His wife informed me of that. I was totally blindsided. I cheated on my husband because our marriage was going down a bad road but this man turned out to be a lying snake. The worst part of all of it is the lies he told. I still struggle to process all of them and it has been over 4 months since I found out.

I never lied to him. Not once.

after the OW told me she was with some one, I was devastated for months, she said she didnt know exactly how I felt about her and if I really loved her, she had to have known how I felt about her. The she said she was seeing if she could move on, but didnt feel it with the other guy, like she did with me. This was a year ago, and when I think about it, I still can make myself nauseous. Even right now, NC for a month, and I still cant imagine her with someone else, and of all the things that bother me about not being with her, that one hurts the most. I have a beautiful wife, an awesome son, great career, an over all great life, but the only thing missing is the connection and love for my wife. The OW took that, and I wonder if I will ever get it back.

I SO get it. At one point I could tell something was off. I finally asked him point blank what was going on and he told me about a "friend" who he would walk with at work. I couldn't eat or sleep for a couple weeks but he convinced me it was nothing. Turns out it was 4 years of "something"
After 4 months NC I still feel anger that he was with another woman after telling me how much he loved me and how everything was different with me. I can barely stand to think about all the lies I found out about. I also have a husband and a great son, but this invades my mind daily. It has eased up, but it is still there. I just can't understand how someone could be so deceptive to everyone in their life. I am mad at myself for not being smarter.
I really think you need to talk to someone for yourself. You need to be able to say whatever you are feeling without judgement.

I am M w 2 kids and cheated w a MM. He pursued me for months we talked and txted everyday. He made promises to me about a future and forever. Over the 2 yrs there were red flags that i see now but believed him at the time. I pulled away from my M and gave my heart to OM. He was very charming. I've broken it off more times than i can count. Longest NC was 4 months until i caved and replied to his txts in January. We've been txting since and regretfully i agreed to see him in January. Today im starting NC yet again.

He's relentless and continues to txt me. He professes his deep love for me sends links to love songs, etc. during my 4 months i went over and over everything in my mind and realized he more than likely cheated before me and during our A - even though he swears he didnt.

I was very naive and now am mad at myself for pulling away from my M. I too felt like OM stole my heart and connection w my H. I am slowly getting it back but it takes a lot of work. What aggravates me even more is that i still have feelings for OM!!! I cant just turn them off because i meant everything i told him. It's frustrating, infuriating and depressing. Working through it one day at a time. The only difference is my H doesn't know. So i struggle alone but with a lot of help from my friends here.