Cheaters Anonymous Community Group
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Struggling today with the NC. I wanted to share this message from a great website that I visit frequently and makes a whole lot of sense to me,
The emotions stirred up by the end of the affair are simply dark clouds. Don't let them frighten you. Like a fast and furious summer storm, they will pass, leaving behind some amazing rainbows. Where you feel empty, your cup will be refilled and renewed. And where you thought you would never feel whole or normal again, you'll discover a strength, a maturity, and a level of self-esteem that surpasses anything you could have imagined for yourself.
Today is hard because I miss his companionship. I miss his friendship. This road is going to be difficult but one I must take. I can't wait for the day that I can look back on the last 4 yrs of my life and all this will make sense to me.
The key to ending an affair is to LET GO. God I need courage. I'm so grateful for this website.
The emotions stirred up by the end of the affair are simply dark clouds. Don't let them frighten you. Like a fast and furious summer storm, they will pass, leaving behind some amazing rainbows. Where you feel empty, your cup will be refilled and renewed. And where you thought you would never feel whole or normal again, you'll discover a strength, a maturity, and a level of self-esteem that surpasses anything you could have imagined for yourself.
Today is hard because I miss his companionship. I miss his friendship. This road is going to be difficult but one I must take. I can't wait for the day that I can look back on the last 4 yrs of my life and all this will make sense to me.
The key to ending an affair is to LET GO. God I need courage. I'm so grateful for this website.
Many of us here are struggling with NC.
You are NOT alone.
Big hugs hun.
You are right that the key is to let go. It's not easy though. You have to do it again and again and again. In the meantime, just hold on to NC for dear life and just keep breathing and living and bearing with the pain, as aweful as it is. Read, read and read. I see that you are already doing that and that is good. Get counseling if you can.
It gets better. Slowly slowly it gets better.
(((hugs)))
Wishing you luck and strength on your NC. Keeping yourself busy and distracted helps a lot.
It does get easier everyday though. I too can't wait intil I can look back without anxiety and just reflect and make sence out of it.