Cheaters Anonymous Community Group
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Hello, CA family,
I miss responding to things. I still read it all off of my phone and there have been things I have wanted to respond to but I am still working too hard and there isn't much left of me by the time I get home. I rest, spend time with my H, get on FB to keep up with my kids and all, while I am eating dinner, and then I find myself dozing at the keyboard so that's it for the day. I have even been working, and/or super busy on the weekends lately, so no catching up on here then either.
A few announcements: My grand daughter was born!!!! We will see her the first weekend of June. We Skype for now and of course text, call, FB, etc.... Her name is Alexandria (Lexi), she was born May 24th at 7 lbs, 3 ozs, 21". She looks like her daddy but with my daughters eyes and personality. Her newborn behavior, actually, is a mirror of my daughter as a baby. She has huge eyes like my daughter and is extremely alert and expressionate. It has been an amazing experience, even though I haven't seen her yet. I can't wait though, and when they come in June Lexi will be baptized at our church!
This coming weekend is our 2 year Dday and a few days before our 31st anniversary. We have been given access, for free, to a beach house in Port Aransas. A gift from someone who owns that house and rents it out weekends for big bucks. He knows what we have been through. He was one I was really afraid to tell, but he has been wonderful. He is actually reviewing our book, which will be out before the end of the month.
We have changed the pics on our new website which is a companion to the coming book. Another friend that I was afraid to tell has gifted us professional pics for the book and website because she did not like the ones we had on there at all, Lol. She is a good enough friend to tell us so. The new pics are up. If you want to see them go to this link and click on "about us." http://www.healinginfidelity.com/index.php
That's about it for the updates. We are keeping our chins just above water financially, Our high functioning Austistic son with learning disabilities is doing okay at culinary school and loving it. I can't tell you how scary it was for us for him to pursue this adventure. He calls me 2 or 3 times a day. He was home this last weekend for Orthodox Easter. He is only an hour away so it is not too hard to get him home for some weekends. My other son, at UT, will be home for the summer and has secured a fantastic summer job, so the empty nest will be put on hold for a while.
Well, glad I checked in. I hope I soon get to start responding again more. I made it a priority tonight to post this, and now I am off to FB to find out the antics of my children and other relatives and friends. They have all been keeping me pretty distracted lately.
I miss responding to things. I still read it all off of my phone and there have been things I have wanted to respond to but I am still working too hard and there isn't much left of me by the time I get home. I rest, spend time with my H, get on FB to keep up with my kids and all, while I am eating dinner, and then I find myself dozing at the keyboard so that's it for the day. I have even been working, and/or super busy on the weekends lately, so no catching up on here then either.
A few announcements: My grand daughter was born!!!! We will see her the first weekend of June. We Skype for now and of course text, call, FB, etc.... Her name is Alexandria (Lexi), she was born May 24th at 7 lbs, 3 ozs, 21". She looks like her daddy but with my daughters eyes and personality. Her newborn behavior, actually, is a mirror of my daughter as a baby. She has huge eyes like my daughter and is extremely alert and expressionate. It has been an amazing experience, even though I haven't seen her yet. I can't wait though, and when they come in June Lexi will be baptized at our church!
This coming weekend is our 2 year Dday and a few days before our 31st anniversary. We have been given access, for free, to a beach house in Port Aransas. A gift from someone who owns that house and rents it out weekends for big bucks. He knows what we have been through. He was one I was really afraid to tell, but he has been wonderful. He is actually reviewing our book, which will be out before the end of the month.
We have changed the pics on our new website which is a companion to the coming book. Another friend that I was afraid to tell has gifted us professional pics for the book and website because she did not like the ones we had on there at all, Lol. She is a good enough friend to tell us so. The new pics are up. If you want to see them go to this link and click on "about us." http://www.healinginfidelity.com/index.php
That's about it for the updates. We are keeping our chins just above water financially, Our high functioning Austistic son with learning disabilities is doing okay at culinary school and loving it. I can't tell you how scary it was for us for him to pursue this adventure. He calls me 2 or 3 times a day. He was home this last weekend for Orthodox Easter. He is only an hour away so it is not too hard to get him home for some weekends. My other son, at UT, will be home for the summer and has secured a fantastic summer job, so the empty nest will be put on hold for a while.
Well, glad I checked in. I hope I soon get to start responding again more. I made it a priority tonight to post this, and now I am off to FB to find out the antics of my children and other relatives and friends. They have all been keeping me pretty distracted lately.
Other than that, I am hanging in there, up and down with the H. Wish life could have a few more rainbows, but it is what it is.
I lost a cousin on Saturday to cancer. Too many funerals lately.
So glad your family is doing well.
Ive been sticking to NC - 43 days today altho OM has contacted me a few times during this time - Ive held strong. Ive been focusing on my M, now with a clearer head - sadly things are not good there. I made a timeline over the last 3 yrs of our issues and H and I had a huge talk Sunday. It didnt go too well, he became defensive - as I suspected and his p/a tendencies were in full force. I urged him that we go find a new MC and do IC and he agreed, we shall see. There is so much resentment btwn us now, and lack of respect, not sure how this will turn out.
Good luck with the book - nice to see you back!
My daughter had her baby on May 2nd. He was 9 lbs, 9 oz and 22 inches. Doesn't fit in newborn size, they don't snap. lol He is also a spitting image of his daddy. They will be here next week and we can't wait.
Sticking with all the Therapy but still have hard days. Learning what my triggers are and H is learning how to listen to me and validate what I need. It's hard but we will keep with it. Right now the hardest part is spending a great weekend together and then him leaving me for work early Monday and not really seeing him until the end of the week. He is applying for "desk' jobs to get out of the field but it could take awhile. Just staying strong and being thankful for what I do have.
Notmyself - I have been reading your posts and have been so impressed. It seems you have come a long ways since you appeared here. I am so impressed that you have not responded to your OM's texts and such. that takes such strength. that is a weakness of mine. You have been working so hard to do the right things and improve your M. I am sorry it has not been going so well but I am glad he agreed to counseling. I do hope the two of you can begin to come together and build a fulfilling relationship.
Scuddles - Yay to being new Grandma's! My babies were huge like that, Lol, and we all expected my daughter's baby to be that big. 7 lbs 3 ozs surprised us all. Glad you will see yours next week. 3 weeks for us. Keep up the good fight scuddles and things will get better and easier ever so slowly. At least that's how it has been for me.
Thanks Pink, I have been missing my input too, Lol
Red, I hope things get better soon. Y'all need some serious breakthroughs as a couple. I hope you get them. You all have been through so much. It's time for some happier times. It is always the hope that we can learn from the past and learn new ways to function so things go better.
Thanks Iris
Tantric, I do hope things get better for you. I will lead your cheering section that things will get better soon. BTW, one of my favorite clients, a young mom with 4 small children, is in the process of being diagnosed with MS. Her Mom had it. It makes me sad, but she lives a very healthy lifestyle so I am hoping that will help her. I know she will learn all she can and do all she can to stay as healthy as possible. I am glad you are making better choices, lady!
Anyone else want to chime in here? Give us your updates.....
I totally get what you and Cole are going through rebuilding your M from the ground up. My h and I remarried 14 years ago after my infidelity, so it is possible to love again.. I'm struggling again, with the same man, but I'm taking baby steps to end it.. fortunately my h and I are doing wonderful and were going on vacation in June to the Smokey mountain. I am going to surprise him and asked him to renew our vows then, and I will once again make a new start without my ex in my life.. that will be when I completely end my secret love with my ex, and look forward to s beautiful life with my h...
Being grandparents is the most special feeling in the world. It feels just like an extension of my own children, so I'm not a grandma, I had another child..lol
Good to see you: )
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