Cheaters and Betrayeds Helping Each Other Community Group
This is a group where cheaters and betrayeds can come to try to help each other better understand infidelity from the perspective of the other side because understanding can often lead to healing. Members can ask each other questions, share experiences, and provide insights and opinions without judgments or animosity. If you have a chip on your shoulder, an axe to grind,...
I know what my fears are (BS of about a year after affair that lasted about a year) would like to know what some of you all fear. (being everyone)
What fears do the CS have.
Other BS have.
What can we help each other with in order to find ways to deal with these fears and not let them control our lives or worry us to much. I think that our fears may help us stay in check and not blindly trust. I do think that you have to have trust for a relationship to work but I don't think the level of trust I had for my wife before the affair was healthy. She even tried to tell me so many times with little hints that I just did not listen to because I trusted her so blindly. I think that both the CS & BS have lots of fears after the truth comes out. I would like to know how you all feel.
Thanks everyone and good luck to everyone in such a painful situation.
What fears do the CS have.
Other BS have.
What can we help each other with in order to find ways to deal with these fears and not let them control our lives or worry us to much. I think that our fears may help us stay in check and not blindly trust. I do think that you have to have trust for a relationship to work but I don't think the level of trust I had for my wife before the affair was healthy. She even tried to tell me so many times with little hints that I just did not listen to because I trusted her so blindly. I think that both the CS & BS have lots of fears after the truth comes out. I would like to know how you all feel.
Thanks everyone and good luck to everyone in such a painful situation.
But until that trust is rebuilt, the fear is real and doesn't go away no matter the logic used. It's like having been shot, you stay on the front line, knowing the next bullet could be fatal. Not a comfortable place to be.