Cheaters and Betrayeds Helping Each Other Community Group

This is a group where cheaters and betrayeds can come to try to help each other better understand infidelity from the perspective of the other side because understanding can often lead to healing. Members can ask each other questions, share experiences, and provide insights and opinions without judgments or animosity. If you have a chip on your shoulder, an axe to grind,...

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been a year

losinghope94
losinghope94
It's been a whole year since the big D day, and it still hurts. Not much healing has taken place. The OW was a good friend of mine, still have to see her weekly and I can't help but want to trip her as she walks past me. Why have I been able to pretty much move on as normal with my CS but can't stand the sight of the OW? They both betrayed me. Anyone have similar experience?
losinghope94
losinghope94
It's still hard. Will it ever get better?
jayalexander
jayalexander
It does get better. It takes a long time though. Years, not months.
The more work CS does the faster comes your healing. Eliminating triggers is important - any way you could stop seeing your pseudo friend? Also have you tried to tell her how you feel? Has yor husband been doing what you needed him to do to feel safe?
losinghope94
losinghope94
My husband has not given me reason to doubt. I know it's over and was a very short term thing. We are in the same church so I do have to see her weekly but we do not talk and have not talked since this happened. I don't see the point in it. She knows her betrayal. I cringe when I have to hear her voice.