What do you think about people who tell me:

"Forget it, its in the past nothing to worry about."
or
"That was years ago you can't blame your disorganised/procrartinating behaviour or social inadequacy on what happened back then."

I on the other hand think

"This has screwed up so many years of my life and is still screwing around with me now."

Is it normal to think like this.

Can we reach out to the Bullies, personally I think not, I think we can give each other strength and understanding and through this more bullies will learn that there actions can only lead to trouble for them

Even this site amazes me, I have discused other subjects on here, this site has helped me to stop drinking (nearly 3 years sober) and most recently I used this site to help me stop smoking (10 Months) - what amazes me, is that other subjects here have hundreds of subscribers, but this thread has but just a few, that for me just shows how bad bullying is, it happening to thousands every day, and here we have a handfull that are brave enough to share.

Well lets share lets try and build this, we have nothing to be ashamed of, we should bear no guilt, we did nothing wrong except try to be friends and care.

No its not normal to think like this but its normal that we do, so mad we are not

I have come to the conclusion that it is even possible to reach out to bullies in the end but we can not begin to do this until we begin to find peace with ourselves.

The reason the bullying forum has so few subscribers is because most people are afraid to talk about it.

I have now come to the conclusion that bullying effects at least 70% of people if not more. Because those who just turn the other cheek and say others are culpable also.

I believe we need to use our influence in other groups to get people to start comming to the bullying forum, bullies as well as people who have been bullied and even people who looked the other way.

Because in some cases not looking the other way could have prevented suicide.

I agree, in some ways we are lucky to be here, the sad fact that many find the trauma so bad that they take there own lives is a sad testament to how bad bullying is, normally at an age when we are just trying to find ourselves we get bullied into confusion, often I think the bullies main aggression is a deep down expresion of there own inadequecy, amongst other reasons.

At the time many of my friends looked the other way, maybe I should not blame them, but I have not spoken to them ever since, there loss or mine who knows, and all because of bullies how sad.

Well for me it still affects me to this day

I hate it when teachers say to me just wait till you leave school you will have a good job and they will be dustmen. I want to shout but this is happeneing now, your not doing anything about it. I hate people who find joy out of hurting other people. They don't know how much they are affecting us by calling us names, tripping us up in the corridors. They have no idea...

wen ur little life is supposed to be gd for me it wasn't/isn't

y do ppl bully?

I've been the victim of a psychopath/sociopath/bully for 10 years. they destroyed my reputation, nearly bankrupted me, got me fired from 3 jobs killed my dog, wrecked my car stole my money, stalked me, put drugs in my drink & disconnected my phone so I could call for help (ended up in the hospital. Yet they accused my of threatening them then took me to court & poisoned me so I wouldn't show up and loss the case. They then posted that fraudulent case on line and I can't get a new job. They threatened/blackmailed my friends, lawyers, bosses/jobs, associates virtually everyone I am in contact with.. They have destroyed my life because I helped them out. there are several good books Sociopath Next Door is very good. But no one will help in fact they join the line for screwing you over! You're on your own. We need to get the legal community to understand that these bullies are guilty and get the law to represent us instead of them. We need therapists who really understand that you can't get off your tuff and move on. After 10 years my psychopaths still stalk me and break into my house regularly stealing little things but mostly evidence I have against them. We need folks who will hire us, Schools that help kids and kick the bullies out. We need testing to get into police academy, law and medical school. We need to keep these nuts from having jobs of authority. We need a support center for victims.

Is there a bullying group strictly for adults--this I have been trying to find. No offense to teens and kids but I feel really bad about laying out my adult issues in front of a child.

This thread needs to be revived as Senior bullying is rampant. You only hear about school-age folks being bullied and yet it has been found in Senior groups and Senior 'communities' it happens far too often. I'm researching and hoping to get active groups discussing the issue. I joined a Senior Community for the first time and made many friends but I fell ill due to prescribed medications and had to come off of them and the process is horribly debilitating and painful beyond belief. I've been basically housebound for over a year. A neighbor came under the guise of "concern" and it quickly turned abusive...at first I was puzzled at her anger and berating of me..because I was so sick, and did not know how to respond. she'd insult me, yell at me and then switch to being supportive. Then the bizarre calls started in and when I told her she was making no sense, she told me that my perceptions were off. She'd call and demand I come take care of her...yell at me for getting packages delivered to my door and have visitors. She got another neighbor to join in and that woman would bang on my door with her fists time and again, despite being told to stop!! I was in such pain and having chronic insomnia. These two women I used interact with and thought they were 'nice enough' I didn't hang around with them, but would chat on occasion and then when I fell so ill the abuses began. This destroys one's sense of peace and self-esteem. I am beyond understanding how anyone could be so cruel. Living for only a few years in a Senior Community I see jealousy, anger and picking on others. I never imagined Seniors could be so mean and spiteful. All these years living and they can't do better than that? I dislike living in the so-called Community but housing prices are up and housing is tight in the area I live in. I want to get a handle on the issue of Bullying among Seniors. I'm still trying to heal and the bullying haunts me daily. I've stopped the calls and interactions, but I know they have gossiped about me to other neighbors, which makes me hesitant to try and get out and about. I do wish I could move away. Is anyone wanting to get a Supportive Group up and running? Many are out there that need an outlet regarding this issue. Thanks!