Borderline Personality Disorder Community Group
Support for those suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior. This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and the individual's sense of self-identity. Originally thought...
Hello guys. I could be wrong but I really suspect that my girlfriend is a sufferer of BPD. Before I list out the symptoms of suspicion I need to explain why I am raising the red flag here. I was in a 3 year tumultuous relationship with a BPD sufferer about 5 years ago prior to meeting my current girlfriend. And no I do not have a BPD fetish lol. I just so happen to meet my current gf and realize she seems to exhibit some signs of BPD.
- Her mood fluctuates a lot! One moment we could be happy and the next day she would be moody and I would try to be nice to her and stuff but she would end up lashing her anger at me.
- She seems irritable about the most trivial things and as much as I try to not get into a fight with her over it, she would keep pushing the matter until it gets out of hand. For example the other day I was just making a small comment that it would be nice if I had a boss who allowed me to work from home. She immediately flared up and accused me of complaining all the time, I tried to quell her anger by saying I was merely trying to express a casual wish. We nearly broke up.
- I would usually try to be nice and try to apologise first even if its not really my fault.
- Her mood fluctuations are becoming more frequent like every few days she would be sweet one moment and suddenly nasty the next.
- Her sleeping pattern is always disturbed, she either sleeps a lot or very little.
- She drinks a lot but usually this improves her mood. She is never a messy drunk thankfully.
- Lastly...she was a former druggie. She took a lot of ecstasy in her youth. I don't know if this done some kinda permanent brain damage.
I know asking for help here may or may not do any help but I mean I don't even know how she would react if I told her she might be a BPD sufferer.
Sidenote: She does express alot of love for me and cares for me in her own quiet way. She recently got me a sweet gig at the company that she works in. The pay bump is quite attractive. I have to face her at work so even if this relationship does not work out in the end I need some voices of reason her to help me deal with her behaviour.
- Her mood fluctuates a lot! One moment we could be happy and the next day she would be moody and I would try to be nice to her and stuff but she would end up lashing her anger at me.
- She seems irritable about the most trivial things and as much as I try to not get into a fight with her over it, she would keep pushing the matter until it gets out of hand. For example the other day I was just making a small comment that it would be nice if I had a boss who allowed me to work from home. She immediately flared up and accused me of complaining all the time, I tried to quell her anger by saying I was merely trying to express a casual wish. We nearly broke up.
- I would usually try to be nice and try to apologise first even if its not really my fault.
- Her mood fluctuations are becoming more frequent like every few days she would be sweet one moment and suddenly nasty the next.
- Her sleeping pattern is always disturbed, she either sleeps a lot or very little.
- She drinks a lot but usually this improves her mood. She is never a messy drunk thankfully.
- Lastly...she was a former druggie. She took a lot of ecstasy in her youth. I don't know if this done some kinda permanent brain damage.
I know asking for help here may or may not do any help but I mean I don't even know how she would react if I told her she might be a BPD sufferer.
Sidenote: She does express alot of love for me and cares for me in her own quiet way. She recently got me a sweet gig at the company that she works in. The pay bump is quite attractive. I have to face her at work so even if this relationship does not work out in the end I need some voices of reason her to help me deal with her behaviour.
One day I saw things from a different angle and realised that he was the innocent party in all of this and that there was something different about me. I realised that my arguments were completely pointless and that I shouldn't let trivial matters wind me up so much. I knew that there was something wrong with me because I could not control my behaviour if something made me feel angry. I would feel hate towards the person I loved most. That doesn't make sense unless you have BPD.
I am not sure it would have been helpful to be told by someone that they thought I had a problem. I think I had to work it out for myself.
I am not sure what you can do. Have you spoken to her about your ex and how she use to behave towards you? Could you discuss this with her doctor privately and see what they suggest?
Take care