Hello. I have been remarried for 4 years now. My husband has 1 daughter (10) and I have 1 daughter and(14) and 1 son (11). All of the kids live with us. To make a long story short, my ex is God to my kids and what he says is law. The problem is that he is telling my daughter she does not have to listen to her stepdad and that he is not allowed to tell anything. I've asked him to back me up but he hates my husband and refuses to help. Its been almost 6 years. My husband has about had enough and wants me to send my daughter back with her dad. He is talking about leaving me because of my daughter's refusal to straighten up. The problem with sending her to her dad's is my ex doesnt take care of her. Both kids got held back 2 years in school bc he didn't make them go, they never brush their teeth, take a bath, wear clean clothes, etc. We've been to counseling and tried everything. Someone please help!