Give it Time and Time it Right
Timing is usually everything when it comes to blending families. Keep in mind that jumping into a new marriage directly after a divorce or loss of a spouse may not be a good idea, for either parent or child. Sometimes the parent needs time to grow individually and focus on the child, while the child needs time to digest and adjust to the loss of one family before entering into another. Blended families will also be more successful when there is a healthy parent-child relationship already established. Even if you give it lots of time, you still shouldnât assume that during the courting or after the wedding the family is going to become one big happy, cohesive unit. Having this expectation compromises everyoneâs ability to adjust at their own pace. Putting pressure on stepchildren to accept and love the new family can breed resentment.