biological families Community Group
This group is for those who have found or want to find their biological families, or have been adopted. You may also join if your speaking with your children who have found you! We will be talking about our experiences how we feel and anything else that is on your mind that you would like to talk about. So please make yourself an home!
For those of you that have found your biological families, how do you feel when certain people tell you what you should and shouldn't do with them? For me I'm being very careful on who I tell that I found my family because of this, and plus most people believe that I should tell my adopted parents, when really it's a personal choice and it's different for everyone. How do you feel on the matter?
muskrattiger
I think that ..you need to do what you need to do for your self and if your adoptive parents don't want to be a part of it that is up to them ..but they or the rest of the family ...should ..have enough love and trust in you to know that you are not going to just run over to the other side ......there are things that you can only find out about your self from your biolijical parents ....that has been my daughters experance ....she. never felt like she fit in ..her adopted family but she does love them ...when she met us it was like she was. was never apart from us ...and she could see ware she got a lot of her thinking ...that was not like her adopted family ....her adoptive family ...don't like to here to much ...they have come a long way but thre are many things that she can't shair with them ...and especualy what she has found out happened to me and so many others not in just my country but around the world ....and this is a injustice ....she feels strongly about ..so it is a road ..her and I will go dowen together ......you can have the best of both worlds ...don't let ..others ..make your mind up for you ..on eather side ....you are the important one in this ...you have things you need to know ..don't miss the opertinunity ......to find out ...ware you came from ...thankyou for being here for me ....and don't be surprised if you find that you and your birth mother and father ......have more in omen with what happened ..to me ....it happened to. ..millions of girls all around the world ....we did not give up our baby's they were stolen .....by the government and the churches working together .....it was mandated by the government ..how we were to be treated ....the lies told to the parents and the mothers ...they stold the baby's from .....my parents were not even told when I had dilivered the baby ...my dad was told the baby had to stay in the hospital for 5 days ...but those 5 days were already over ...by than ...the reason for the 5days was because if a child was left at the hospital for 5 days they could take the baby's as adandoned baby's .....look into ..the past ....
kimjones
Thank you, since I wrote this I ended up telling my adopted folks. They took things alright. My mom had plenty of questions while my Dad only had 2 of them. I only told them what I was comfortable sharing with them. A lot of information about my birth side I'm wanting to keep to myself with my adopted parents. Thank you for being understanding, and again I'm soo sorry to what happened to you.
muskrattiger
thankyou ....you got lucky ....many adoptive parents ...wanted nothing to do with the biological parents ...as in my case ..her adoptive father ..dident think it was so bad untill she found us her biological parents married and together ...and then he was very upset .....her father would never axcept us ....and did some cruel things ...her mom had a hard time of it ...but it was easer for her to ..get to know our children ...I belive her parents belived that we were going to some how steal her away ...something we would never think to do ...her mother and ..her adopted father has passed ...but ..her mother is on my face book along with her close friend ..and one of her fist cousins is living now for 5 years with one of my younger sisters ...and they get along great ...they do all kinds of things together ....who knew ....when he.saw me for the first time ..when I went out to see my dad ...he could not belive how much I looked and was like my daughter his cousin ....and even my sister ...has some resemblance ..to my daughter ......but we behave a lot alike ......but even know ..my daughter knowes what her mother can axcept .or wants to know about and watch she doesent want to know about ....and knowes we did not come to fine ...her daughter my daughter to take her away ..from her ....that is a fire an adoptive parents lives with ...some ..more some less ......but so long as they know you love them and you are not replacing them ...that is important ......but because of diferance so ....in ..people ...the adoptive parents ...will usually not want to know everything ..about ...how things were ...or who the .bioligical parent was ..and so that is a line that all have to respect ......but they all have to respect .....your road to find out who you are ...ware ..certain things in you come from ......I hope that you will have a happy and fulfilling relationship with both your adoptive parents and the biological parents ..as well ...good luck on your voyage .....take very good care of your self ..along the way ....I keep you in my prayers .....God bless
mysooners
Kim, forgive me for forgetting about this group. How are you doing? You at lease have found your bio parent or parents (you will have to remind me) we have been hugging back and forth, but I lost the connection. Please let's get reconnected again. As you know I will never find my bio father, he should be in his mid to late 80's now. And me at 65 (66 on Dec 6th) I don't feel I need to know him. Did I tell you that Mom passed 1 year ago yesterday (Nov 6)? Now I just have my step-dad he will be 84 on Dec 3rd, he still plays golf! And drives of course. I will send you a hug, in case you don't get this reply. Love You, Marie
kimjones
Thank you for checking in Maria. I need to make more time for our group. I've just have had a lot on my plate lately, and haven't been around much. I do remember about you telling me about your bio dad, and I'm sorry about that, and for your mom. Least you have your friends, and your step dad. Love you too!
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