my husband and I have been remarried to each other for almost 3 years.  

I feel like it’s not going to work either. Even though he’s had such an infidelity problem in the past, we divorced and apart off and on for at least 5 years.  He came to ME and wanted us back together. Says he found himself and now knows he wants to me with me. Being scared in the beginning, and since I have still loved him, I did and we remarried. Everything seems I though was great. 

NOW....

he says he needs to try to make himself happy.  And in April I found an email to a women he was shaving a thing with while we were married. He says she contacted him. It was his birthday and she called to wish him a happy birthday. But he didn’t tell me. Then I found the email in April. She talked about all the sexual things he did to her and how she still makes his day. He replied back “ you made my day”. 

Now he acts like he doesn’t want to be here. We started counseling. I just can not believe that I am going through all this again and back to counseling. He says he wants to make this work and he loves me. But he needs to work on himself 1st. I thought he did that while we were apart!  

Then there’s the grandkids.  I have been watching them 5 days a week. It was bothering him so I made it 3 days. He says he wants our time to be open so we can go do things. We are both retired. BUT. One of his farmer friends called and wants him to help him in the field for a few weeks. Which is ok bUT. He didn’t want to have the kids. I told him that my daughter said we can go do anything we want when. Just let her know so they can make other   He says he doesn’t want to answer to anyone arrangements. I reminded him of that when he said something about helping in the field. That he would have to ANSWER” to his friend if he wants to not work whenever. 

He sYs that is not the same. WHAT?  Of course it is. I am totally confused with him.  I just don’t know what to do. Is it me ?  

Please would someone tell me what you think.  Thank you!