Before and after divorce...Recovery steps Community Group

Support for people going thru the process of divorce and the recovery steps taken to achieve wholeness again.

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strwberryginger 11/08/2016

I just needed a safe place to get my feelings out. None of my friends nor family liked my ex and we have been seperated 2 years in Jan so i don't really have anyone to talk to about the very deep sorrow and failure i feel everytime I go to the court to turn in more papers and the final court date is set for next Tuesday. I feel incredably happy because I have a wonderful partner now that loves my girls and me and is so many things I needed that my ex wasn't. I also feel a deep sorrow, and a feeling of failure and fear of ever being married again. He was once the love of my life, married at 19 and married for 10 years before we seperated. We have two amazing daughters together 7 and 2.5. He changed my life, he was my everything to the point of being unhealthy for a long time and he hurt me in so many unimaginable ways. I know this is the best choice. The right choice. And I thought I would be over this grieving process by now but I'm just not....sometimes it feels so fresh and raw, other times it feels so healed and over. It's just nice to get it all out. All these mixed emotions building in my heart.

Dano 08/07/2017

I am glad for you I am in a place in my life where I have been married for 46 years. I met my wife when she was 17 and I was 19 I am now 65 years old. Through the years we have grown apart. I left her about four months ago. She is broken up really bad over this and I feel through the years she has manipulated me, and have destroyed our relationship through words, like telling me why don't I go find someone that makes me happy because she doesn't. So I have left. I have found it very hard to tell her that I want to divorce and move on in my life. I am hoping someone can give me the strength to do what I have to do to move on.

Caesar77 08/08/2017

I know EXACTLY what you mean. I was married for about 18 years, was separated 2 years before my divorce was finalized. I was by no means the perfect husband, but I was honest, faithful and a good dad to our four kids (now ages 9-19). I found out she had cheated on me, but when I confronted her with pictures, phone records and other documents, she flat out denied the affair. Fast forward three years and I found, and am engages to, the most amazing lady. But there are and were times, where it does feel exactly like that; raw. I don't ever bring it up but that word stuck out to me because I have thought it felt like that. There are times that even though I know I am in a much better place, it hurts to think about how I got where I am.

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