Most subs (and I'm guessing some slaves as well) have their limits drawn out loud and clear. I have many limits in terms of what I will absolutely NOT do, as well as what I might do someday. One of my "hard limits" is NO sharing or 3rd parties. Period. That is a deal breaker for me. As your Master, this man needs to protect and care for all your needs as well - that's a huge part of his job. It is dangerous (physically and emotionally) to enter into a D/s relationship without the boundaries drawn. If I have a Dom, he will always know my limits and that any beach of them means the end. Good luck and be careful!

Dear Awesomeself-First off, thank you taking the time to respond to my message. I love him, am willing to submit, but I just don't want to involve other women. But I'm afraid I'll lose him. And he has really been instrumental for me, for awakening something in me. So that's where I am now, at a crossroads. So confused and sad.

You're welcome, and I completely understand. Still, you do need to be able to talk to him so that worry and resentment don't build inside you. Some agreements need to be made. A D/s relationship is not just for the Dom - the point is for both parties to be happy and healthy, right? I realize this board is really quiet, so if you want more BDSM discussion, you might check out literotica.com and go to the bulletin boards. There's another great site called collarme.com that has active boards, but the site iteself is currently down.

Thank you once again for all of your helpful advice. I'll check out those sites.

I agree with Awesome . We all must have some limits , especially emotionally . It sounds like an open discussion is in order . Having another woman involved may just destroy the awakening you so sorely needed . His job as your Master is not only to make demands but to make you happy . Draw boundaries early . The longer you wait the harder it will be . Believe it or not these relationships are a 2 way street . He must honor your heart more than anything as you would for him .

Thank you so much bdsmalways, I will mention, this, I have to. I appreciate this.

Welcome, bdsmalways. This is a quiet forum, as you can see. For more lively boards, you can check out collarspace.com which used to be collarchat. I read a lot on there and its always educational!
One final thought on the topic here . . . a really good Dom wants to help his sub reach new heights, sexually AND as a person, if it's a 24/7 D/s relationship. It can't just be about him. A self-centered control freak can't just call himself a dom so that he can boss his woman around and not be monogomous. There's so much more to it, and it's quite a responsibility. I was seeing someone who wanted a sub but didn't know how to be a dom. He banned me from touching myself indefinitely, with no reason, and with no idea when we would see each other again. That kind of thing should be punishment, not just some random "I feel like giving an order" flight of fancy.

I would suggest sitting down with your Master and having a discussion with him. Was this activity listed as a Hard Limit on your contract? If not, you may want to renegotiate your contract. While some Masters have more than one slave.submissive many do not. I would suggest sitting down and having an open and honest discussion with your Master about your feelings on this topic. I wish you the best of luck.