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Hi - Ive been struggling with this for over 2 months.. I asked a simple question if he was married and he blew up at me and told me I wasn't his sub any longer. In addition to being devastated he still says to this day he loves me and I will always be in his life. He had another gal he was seeing as well, and now he got her pregnant ... but he's so weird in his thinking,,, he told me he doesn't give a '''''ck about her but he's tall and she's tall so the baby will be an investment.. a future bball player. Now he's met her parents (they are very wealthy) painted a picture of him leaving our area and moving there, setting up house, all the while he's telling me that her parents are fully aware of me. Well, the gal and Iare friends, and she just told me that I was explained as a "good friend"... instead of someone he ....fks... I'm dissappointed in the web of lies, but it seems I can't stop my feelings... I need to know how to do that... I moved to a different state for HIM now I feel I'm being abandoned... someone that said they were going to have my back, but now I find out there are so many lies all the way through this relationship (which has been 2 years) and I don't know how to recoop. I honestly think I'm in a depressed mode right now. I need to move on, but he keeps coming back...
I am very empathetic to the loss of your collar. I understand how detrimental that can be for a submissive. I believe there should have been more transparency in the relationship you formed with your Dominant. However, W/we can not change what already is, but W/we do have control over how W/we respond to what is from this point forward. For your sanity, if I were you, I would have another conversation with Him about where you are. I would express My intentions of where you would like to see yourself and I would ask Him if this is something that He can give. If He does not plan to further a relationship with you, then accountability has to set in. If you want something different from what you desire and if His actions speak to the opposite of what you desire, you have two choices. Be content with being strung along and find some form of solace in whatever interactions that you share with Him. The next option is to remove yourself from a toxic situation and leave things with Him behind. Reflect on what you have learned from this process. Relect, learn and become a better stronger person. Good luck and I hope you find peace.