we had a great almost too perfect r/s for 7 mos. he texted/called every day, did so many nice things for me, initiated our one night a week date nights and we usually spent night after going to dinner or cooking. He was definitely the initiator of asking me out, texting, setting pace of r/s. He assured me we both wanted same thing, a r/s that was moving forward. I was always very admiring of him, appreciative, called him my superman, which he totally deserved. 

Around 6 mos. I started feeling insecure, like something wasn't right, cause we never did anything spontaneous, trips, etc. and we're still stuck in this one night a week thing, although I did feel like he was getting closer emotionally. 

If I had researched first about avoidance, I prob. Wouldn't have said anything. But Last week he started talking about how busy he was and I knew we weren't gonna get to see each other.so I told him I need to see him more. Not every day, but I'd like to see him twice a week. I didn't want to pressure him.i felt like at 7 mos. I could be vulnerable and tell him I missed him. I had brought it up a few other times in past and he always agreed and tried to make more of an effort for a little bit, and sometimes we'd see each other briefly one other time during week. 

He said we'd have to see what we could do. At first I think he thought I was displeased and hinting I wanted to break up cause I said maybe we want different things. He said we should have this conversation in person. I said there is no one else. I love you. I just need to see you more.

he was supposed to come over two nights later, and for first time in 7 mos. did not call or text for next 2 days and didn't show up. Next day he sent text apologizing. I didn't pressure him and just sent light text back. He texted back saying he just didn't feel good. Didn't hear from him next day. Then next ran into him at Starbucks. He was different. Could tell his spark was gone. Said he had all this stuff going on and I had my kids and that he just didn't think he could give me time I needed. I told him I never meant to pressure him or the relationship but I felt disconnected from him and I didn't like feeling like that. I t old him it was not my intention to criticize or pressure him, that I had so much respect for him, and maybe we should take a break cause I didn't want to put pressure on our r/s.I said if I was going to be in exclusive r/s I needed to spend time w/ that person or needed to keep my options open but that I missed him. We hugged and he said we'd talk later. Haven't heard from him in two days. He's still friends on fb.

i love him and miss him. Will he come back?? I'm giving him his space and won't call or chase but miss him so much. Don't see how he can't miss me and all the compliments and appreciation I gave my "Gentleman" and my "superman"! Miss him so much. Can an avoidant please give me advice?!